(Closed) About to blow a gasket.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

hugs…she should have asked her family to make the food not the bridal party…

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would kindly tell your friend that you are not able to make food for 100 people and back out. There is no way I would do that for someone who just sprung that on me, especially if they obviously aren’t that close of a friend.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

WOW, do you have any previous experience in food catering? I can’t imagine cooking one simple thing for 30 people, let alone a HUNDRED.

What is she asking you to make? If it’s something that has to be kept cold or warm, how is she going to prepare all of it and keep it safe to eat? I would back out (and run away).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yikes!! That’s a big responsibility!! Most venues have rules about it only coming from licensed caterers. What if someone gets sick or something?? Who’s going to prepare the food on the day of?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That sounds horrific and really unrealistic of her to expect. Wow.

I have no advice, but I’ve never heard of a bride asking people to make the reception food for 100 people.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@PinkMagnolia:  Perfect way to back out! Tell her you do not want to take the risk as you could be held liable if someone were to get sick. I actually held back a lol at work for this post. A friend of mine’s mom almost nixed my mom from the bridal shower list. Mind you we’ve known this girl since for uh 20 some years. Then she had the nerve to ask me if my mom would make cookies for the reception. I told her no and never asked my mom. I found it beyond rude.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, that is amazingly inconsiderate of her!  I don’t blame you for being pissed, I would be, too.  I would have to seriously think about backing out of that one, lol.  IMO it is not the bridal party’s obligation to pay for or prepare the food for a wedding, that is the responsibility of the bride and groom.  Are you going to go through with it?  Yikes . . . what do the other members of her bridal party think about this?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

You should have said no.  I know, hindsight is 20/20, and you’re probably a generous person like me.  But, throughout this wedding process, I’ve learned who my real friends are.  I have vowed to myself that I will no longer be doing favors for people anymore, because they have all been MIA for me during this stressful time in my life. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@PinkMagnolia:  Yep- most of the venues we looked at had strict rules about food having to be made in a commercial kitchen.

@Legallyblondiebride: This is not cool. Unless you have a catering background, and even then- you’re in the wedding, you’ll have enough going on. I’ve been to wedding where the catering was from Subway. There are other options available. LIke Goldfish Pie asked, how are you supposed to transport and keep it hot or cold? This is a disaster waiting to happen.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

They are just now realizing they can’t afford food?? My wedding is in Nov and I feel like I need to scramble to get the big(i.e. expensive) things taken care of first. Where is this wedding? there have to be some affordable food options.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is she paying for the ingredients or is that supposed to fall on you, too? I would have flat out said no. It is not her BP’s responsibility to feed her guests. If anyone should be slaving away in the kitchen for days prior to her wedding it’s her. I’m actually kind of annoyed for you! lol

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