(Closed) About to cry. Is this my wedding or yours!?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Carolinabuckeye:  Here’s the problem, you feel bullied (and rightfully so), but your sister probably feels under appreciated.  Maybe instead of saying you want to be involved, say that you want to alleviate the stress on her.  If she is still unpleasant, you could always just find another Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 4
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s a tough one.  While it is your wedding, brides really don’t get a say in the shower or bachelorette, since they are not hosting it or paying for it.  Some things you cannot control.  

When I was planning parties for my best friend, I was super offended when she tried to “help” and give me her input.  I was doing a lot of work and spending a ton of money on her, and didn’t really care to hear what she would rather have. 

Post # 5
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11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I see both sides. I think you do need to relinquish some control over the parties others are hosting for you. But, you obviously should be consulted about dates and times!  Focus on planning what you have in your control – the wedding, that’s what is most important.  I totally know where you’re coming from, because it sounds like my mom and sister! I’ll tell you though – it’s not worth the fighting and being upset over.  So, for me I just let it go. 

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