- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Okay, so here’s the back ground. I was in a very abusive relationship a few years ago and ogt out, thankfully with myself somehwat in tact, along the way I learned I had to be very decisive about things I needed versus things I wanted.
Now I am with a WONDERFUL man whom I am marrying April of this year. I have two children, I am a full time college student about to graduate with my BA. and have 2 jobs in addition to my husbands full time job. So we have a fullll plate.
Now, I obviously have a lot of things I need to balance. My maid of honor is my sister. Who is a uuummm “female dog” if you get my drift. She’s not pleasent to be around most of the time but we all deal with it. But i love her and she has been supringly pleasent until a month ago.
Originally we wanted a courttoom wedding with a backyrd reception. We really dont have alot of money and almost no financial help. But we changed our minds and have made it a bit bigger. But my sister has turned into a monster. I told her this cute idea I ofund for a bridal shower game (lol really like a million ideas, thanks Pinterest!) and I told her about it she says, “Don’t worry about it. Im planning it. Not you.” She said the same things about my bachlorette party. She was going to do 4 ppl in a van and thats it. When I confornted her about injviting my other freinds she says, “I DONT KNOW YOUR FRIENDS!!!”
We started to fight about 2 days ago because I told her I needed to be involved. She planned my whole bridal shower apparently without my knowledge and sent out invites and i didnt even know. I saw the invitation on my grandmothers fridge and was like “well it’s nice to know when it is.” I had not known the times to even be there. I confronted my saister about this and explained that I have ALOT of things on my plate and and my final exams are that week and I need to know dates and times BEFORE you print invitations or make sure they’re set in stone.
She got a horrible attitude and said “Well, thats when everyone else can come. But as long as YOU can make it, then its fine right?” (she said this very nasty) I keep thinking, yes as long as I can make it, if I can’t what are you gonna do, hve it without me!?!?
I dont need to control of everything but if I have an idea I would really like to have some input. She blew up on me and quoting said things like “You’re ruining it!” and “You’re being aso controlling!” I cried about it the whole day. My mother doesn’t understand why I am not letting my sister “have her moment to shine.”
Then my mother says, “its traditional for the maid of honor to plan the party and it be a suprise and then bride let her do it by herself.” Umm im not traditional obviously and I dont want a suprise and why cant I be involved in my own parties? I want to be involved and have fun with it! Now my sister is making comments to my other bridesmaid how i am super controlling and pulling a bunch of pity me crap. She also keeps making comments “Only 6 more weeks then im done with this crap.” and theingds liek that.
I just am about to explode. One of my bridesmaid is a very close family friend and my Maid/Matron of Honor has been talking to her alot making it really frustrating for my other bridesmaids because theyre are only texted when money is needed for something. My sister and our mutual close friend keep saying, “you have the wedding to plan and thats YOUR thing. But thats bachlorette party and bridal shower are OUR things.”
Somehow this is not how i pictured it or imagined it. Ugh. 🙁 🙁 🙁 Honeslty I feel kinda bullied.
My edit: She badmouthed my first choice of wedding dress and then my bridesmaids dresses and tried to battle me at bridal dress fittings about my choice of color. I just feel like she’s dictating everything so i’m about to explode on her attitude.