(Closed) About to enter a long-distance MARRIAGE with my military FI…

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

me! we’ve been long distance for over a year now and will be married next Oct. After that, we’ll be LDMarried for at least 2 more years – he lives about 9 hours away. I’m not following him because i have a great job where i am and we will be in a much better place financially in the long run if i hold out and wait for my guaranteed annual promotions to run their course. I know how you feel!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Me too! My Fiance is Military and based about 6 hours drive away. It s small little town with no career prospects. We decided that I should stay in the bigger city about 6 hours away as I have a good job and we can see each other as often as possible. We have been doing this for two years now! Time really flies, we are getting married in 5 weeks

 

You are not alone! You just have to look at the bigger picture, if you are going to be together forever (marriage) then what is a couple of years at the start 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh honey, me me me me me!!!!! I had to finish college and landed a good engineering job in Saint Louis (the kind that is too good to pass up, really)–the last thing i could do was follow him to his duty station in Savannah, Georgia. Plus he was deployed my senior year, then for a solid chunk of my new job. And now he’s out of the Army and home for good–and it does take awhile for them to get good jobs in civilian life when they transition, so it’s a GOOD thing i have my job–it’s what pays our bills and keeps us afloat right now.

I just waited patiently for him to get done and get the heck home 🙂 2 years will FLY by…we did about 4 years or so–you just keep chugging along, day by day, week by week.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

He was an 82d Airborne paratrooper but recently finished up his commitment and is working as a contractor now. he really likes his job and i really like mine too – he’s making bank and getting paid like twice as much as me right now but we’ll be pretty much even in a few years after my promotions and be in a better position to find good jobs close to each other.

I totally agree with nzbride that when it gets hard (it’s especially hard for him right now) or everyone starts harping on me about how they just “cannot see how we can do this” i just think about how it’s just sacrificing a few years for a better forever! I think spending so much time apart helps you REALLY appreciate your guy. :]

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@elliestan–i want to throw big fat books at people who say that. I just say: “you’ll do anything for somebody you love that much” or “well, i’d rather be with him and not be with him than be without him”. Makes me want to gag when I say it, though, cuz it’s a little barftastic Tongue out

Ah, military wives are special. i think watching one of my very good friends go through a deployment with a baby is harder than going through it myself.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

I just got married about a week and a half ago to an Air Force guy who lives 800 miles away. I have 1 semester of school left before I can go anywhere and then he is set to be deployed right as i would be moving. So, more than likely the first year of our marriage will be long distance. Eventually, I will move, but there is no way I’m moving right in the home stretch of my degree. Nuh-uh.

Post # 12
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Newbee

We’ve been international long distance for 16 months.  He comes back next month for the wedding, then goes back overseas until sometime next summer.  We don’t know where his next duty station will be.  Hopefully in my state, but if not, we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.  So I’ll be in your boat for at least six months and maybe a lot longer.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I give many props to you ladies who have the strength to be married to a service man!  It takes a special woman to be able to handle that & know how much your support means to your man.

And please, from FH & myself (he’s former CG), thank your men & the women you know who are serving our country & all those who have served.  We love & appreciate them more than they know.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My FH and I started dating LD – he was in training an hour away so I only got to communicate (not just see, but communicate) with him on weekends. Then he went home to recover from some injuries, and then deployed…that was over a year long apart.  Then he came back from deployment and moved right in with me.  Been together in person since then (March 09), getting married March 11 and he’s back out to deploy a few months after our wedding. 

It’s not THAT difficult, but you have to be careful not to fall in to your own routine so that when you’re back together, he’s hard. That was difficult for me.  And now I’m so used to him here that I can’t imagine how I’ll do everything myself when he’s gone.  But you get used to it quickly.

Post # 15
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565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

BOTH my husband and I are active duty.  When we got married, we were stationed on different bases halfway across the country.  but thanfully, joint spouse kicked in for us and he got PCS’ed to my base, so now we live together.  Being LD married is NOT easy, but the key is communication.  You have to talk to each other every day.  And you have to have trust, as well.  As an active duty female, i find most “miltary wives” annoying espically the ones who leach off their husbands for everything.  be independent too!  I know so many of them, it makes me cringe.  But, at least you have a carrerr, and are doing things for yourself, so go you!  that’s what i like to see. 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We’re getting married within 2 weeks of each other! Zack lives in Ft. Hood and I live in College Station.  After we get married, he’ll deploy to Iraq.  Needless to say, it’ll be a long distance relationship.

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