(Closed) About to have a breakdown!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

To be honest, I would not lend out anymore money…EVER. It sounds bitchy, but I dont do it because there is a good chance to wont see it again. I would sit down with your family whom you lent it to and ask when you will be seeing it. 2000 is A LOT of money, and since its on your loan, thats a big burden on you.

If someone needs help, help them in another way besides giving them money. It just causes more problems and drama in the long run 🙁

Post # 4
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012



People are taking advantage of you.

Post # 5
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m so sorry that this is happening to you.  I just think wedding planning exposes so many flaws in relationships that you didn’t realize were there before – at least that was my experience.  I agree with PP – do not lend anymore money.  Even if you weren’t on a limited salary, I would give the same advice. 

Don’t fret about what you can’t change – you’ve got a great dress and you’ll feel great it in.  Perhaps you can recoup some money afterwards if you’re able to sell the dress on consignment – maybe you could even sell some of your decorations if your friend isn’t interested in using them.

I recommend taking a nice walk, then realize that the whole point of the day is to get married to the love of your life – not to bankroll all of your friends and family, they just won’t appreciate it and you’ll wind up feeling taken advantage of.  I was in a similar situation and a month after the wedding, I’m still slightly frustrated that I don’t think people appreciated things as much as I expected.  I can say that is not a good place to be and I’m trying to move past it.

Good luck – I’m sure everything will be great!

Post # 7
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I honestly love that you are a helper bee and trust me God will bless you. BUT….stop lending out money. Im sorry, but this whole financial woe things with your family really sucks, but if they really are there for you on your day, they will come up with the money. 

******squeezes you****** stop lending out money!! 


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