Post # 1
I am from greece and in september my mom and i where in germany to visit our relatives i wanted to go try some wedding dresses on so that i knew what fitts my body type best so that i can buy it from the internet. In the storevmy ant was so extatic about a dress i tryed on and wanted to buy it at the spot (i was leaving after to days ) and told her it was toooo expensive and i would look it up on the net. it was not what I was looking for but a very nice dress .
Back home i got emails from my other ants telling me how much my ant wanted to buy my wedding dress cause she has no children and it would be her big wish to do so. So that dress was bought and sent to me i wore it ( tooooo big) and about a month ago i stated regreting it for varius reasons ( it not being white about the details looking a bit fake etc) so I went with my gfs and tryed so dresses on and looked hours on the net and then I FOUND it and told my mam who is now mad telling me i should wear the dress my ant bought and thats it. But its my day I want the other dress I cryed and just thinking of it tears come in my eyes
What should I do??????
Post # 3
how about you wear your aunts dress to the ceremony and your dress to the reception.. or pay your aunt back completely for the money she spent on the dress. Even then, I think that may cause ripples in your relationship.
Post # 4
This is a hard one and a lesson you can use in life and for planning the rest of the wedding. Don’t let people push you around when it comes to important pieces of your wedding. Its too late now, but you should have been stronger with your aunt when it came to that dress)
If I were your aunt I would be very upset that I spent a lot of money on a dress and you didnt like it. She didnt realize you didnt like it at the time because you were not honest said it cost a lot of money, so she thought she was giving you a great present and surprise. So that being said, she is going to be upset.
You could talk to your aunt and tell her how after bringing it home and looking at it, that it just doesnt flatter you the way you would like and it doesnt have the same look you remember. Ask her permission to sell it and buy a new one. You dont really need her permission, persay, but without it you will likely cause a lot of family problems.
The other alternative is to wear it to the ceremony and get a party dress for the reception as @Mrs.Moser: said.
This is what i would do:
Determine what you dont like about it and what you do and get it altered to be something you do love. Maybe its add somestraps, change the neckline, add or remove some layers/beading. Add a sash or belt or flower etc. I think this is the best way for you both to “win”
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I agree with Mrs Moser but maybe the other way around as you want to get married in the dress you chose. Comproise but dont give in, its your day. Weddings will always cause ripples
Post # 6
thank you so much for your respond
well the thing is the new wedding dress is even cheaper than the first one (first was about 300 euros the second about 200 euros) its not a bad dress but it is just not me and the worst thing is that its not white
I hate it thats why I wanted to pay for the wedding myself so that nobody can tell me what they thing I should do I mean if I had bought the dress and didnt like it after 3 month I would have just bought it
the worst thing is my moms reaction not even wanting to understand how I feel I am so sad
I dont want to wear two dresses all the pictures will be taken at the church and I cannot imagine myself looking at the photos for the rest of my life in that dress
another thing is that she wanted to buy my wedding dress I dont thing that she wanted that dress I think Im gonna talk to my other ant (the eldest) and ask her opinion
its so hard braking this last days nothing seems to go right its like a bunch in the stomach
Post # 7
well i talked to aunti she is soooooo fine with me wanting to have another dress she even told me that she might had put to much presure on me with the frist dress because she liked it a lot i just have to say mama shell be mad…..