(Closed) About to have a nervous breakdown

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

how about you wear your aunts dress to the ceremony and your dress to the reception.. or pay your aunt back completely for the money she spent on the dress. Even then, I think that may cause ripples in your relationship.

Post # 4
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a hard one and a lesson you can use in life and for planning the rest of the wedding. Don’t let people push you around when it comes to important pieces of your wedding.  Its too late now, but you should have been stronger with your aunt when it came to that dress)

If I were your aunt I would be very upset that I spent a lot of money on a dress and you didnt like it. She didnt realize you didnt like it at the time because you were not honest said it cost a lot of money, so she thought she was giving you a great present and surprise. So that being said, she is going to be upset.

You could talk to your aunt and tell her how after bringing it home and looking at it, that it just doesnt flatter you the way you would like and it doesnt have the same look you remember. Ask her permission to sell it and buy a new one. You dont really need her permission, persay, but without it you will likely cause a lot of family problems.

The other alternative is to wear it to the ceremony and get a party dress for the reception as @Mrs.Moser:  said.

This is what i would do:
 
Determine what you dont like about it and what you do and get it altered to be something you do love. Maybe its add somestraps, change the neckline, add or remove some layers/beading. Add a sash or belt or flower etc.  I think this is the best way for you both to “win”

Post # 5
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I agree with Mrs Moser but maybe the other way around as you want to get married in the dress you chose. Comproise but dont give in, its your day. Weddings will always cause ripples 

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