(Closed) About to rip my beloved a new one

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

*woooosaaa*

Yeah, I can’t really remember anything specific… but I hate when he tries to be helpful by telling something really stupid or obvious, and I’m like, yeah, I’m not that #*[email protected]#%ing stupid, there was no need to tell me that.  He’ll just tell me he’s trying to help and I’m like that is something you might need to tell a 2 year old, but when you tell ME that, I just feel like you think i’m a total moron.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hahaha the other day I got my haircut by someone who doesn’t usually cut my hair… and I was NOT happy with it. And our e-pics are in two weeks. (I know… crazy.)

 

FH was out of town on a business trip and I called him, hysterical about my hair, and he was like “Don’t worry hunny, no one will see your hair in our pictures.”

 

…..WHAAAAAAA!?

 

I just sat there for a minute and then was like “I love you and all… but this conversation is not helpful. I’m going to hang up now.”

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MexiPino:  Mr. 99 told me I should, “Calm down”  one time…..once the dust settled in our house and we were able to locate the dogs, the cat and what was left of the dishes I explained to him that saying that to me was the equivalent of me taking a shit on the hood of his car and that if he liked his face the way he was, he would say something along the lines of, “I can see you’re upset, what can I do to help?” next time.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I find that men’s natural instincts are to want to help *solve* problems, not sympathize.  This drives me crazy sometimes!  I’m like, “Stop trying to fix it, just agree with me that IT SUCKS BALLS!”  (Then he’s pretty good about telling me what I want to hear.)

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MexiPino:  Lol too funny. I am very familiar with Toastmasters but I don’t think I’ve ever taken someone’s speech to heart that much hahaha. They’re like 7 minutes long.. you don’t actually learn anything! If he is serious about this tapping thing, he needs to actually learn how it works in more detail. Yeesh. Try suggesting that to him next time he thinks he’s being helpful!

 

Post # 8
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

Men want to solve problems when they’re presented with them.  Women present problems because they want a sympathetic ear/comfort.  It’s very common for couples to clash over this.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When my fiance has moments of helpfulness, I’ve learned to take a deep breath and repeat to myself over and over ‘he means well’.  And then I go vent about whatever was annoying me to one of my girlfriends. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Nona99:  I am so using that line on my Fiance next time, might add ‘while you’re washing it’

 

@MexiPino:  Yes, Fiance is always so supportive and amazing and believes in me so much that sometimes, just sometimes, I want to punch him. I love him to death but whenever I am stressed about school his response is always: You are just too stressed, take a break and relax, we can go for ice cream and watch a movie. I know you have three exams, a presentation and a term paper due this week but you’re super smart and will miraculously score straight A’s because I believe on you *shits rainbows and looks at me with loving eyes* ugh I sound like a bitch but sometimes I just want to smack him in the forehead and scream NO it doesnt just HAPPEN and taking four hours of time I do not have to go on a break to “relax” is NOT RELAXING, getting shit done and out of the way is relaxing. But he is so sweet and loving I just smile and ask him to go buy me ice cream… goodness I love that man lol

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MexiPino:  HAHAHAHA i think I would just sit there and go WTH was that and WHY did you do attempt to do it?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@MexiPino:  lol, it sounds like he was trying to make you laugh…maybe…

 

My Fiance makes me want to scream when I’m upset and he starts talking to me like I’m 2 or crazy by speaking very calmly and slowly things like “baby, calm down.shhhh. it’s okay” OMG. hate.

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