(Closed) About to strangle FI

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1434 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State


I’m sorry. I was giggling so hard when I read that he said “I can do whatever I want.”

That’s hilarious and cute.

Anyways, I feel your stress. If he can do whatever he wants, let him do it. You don’t need to add people just because he did. Then, when the wedding day arrives, politely tell his “groomsmen” that they have reserved seats on the front row. Leave it at that.

But I wouldn’t threaten to call off the whole thing. That’s not how to handle disputes. 

Post # 4
1842 posts
Buzzing bee

my DH did the same thing and had two groomsmen, I had no one… it looks a little lopsided, but oh well

Post # 6
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This exact thing happened to me. I wanted to elope, he wanted a wedding. I wanted a maid of honor & best man… tops. Fiance then told me one day that he told 3 friends he wanted them to be groomsmen and that they could pick out their own grey suits. So, I dealt. I really just wanted a small wedding party because it’s a small wedding (50 people) but it was an important way for him to honor his friends. I’m sure it will work out. It’s all give and take, right?

Post # 8
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@beedawi:  I think he should have to stick to what he originally agreed to!  He should not have done this without talking to you about it first because it’s not HIS wedding, it’s both of your wedding!  By the way, I don’t blame you one bit for not wanting a bridal party!  This is my first (and hopefully only) marriage, but the people in my bridal party have given me that much grief that NEVER AGAIN would I even CONSIDER having a bridal party if I ever happen to get married again.  In fact, my advice to other brides now is to not have a bridal party the first time around either!  Bridal parties are nothing but trouble!

Post # 9
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

By the same token, it is not YOUR wedding, it is BOTH your wedding. So if you don’t want anyone standing up with you, don’t have any. Let gin deal with his groomsmen.

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