Post # 1
we got engaged on saturday evening. I was more than happy. I love my man and want to spend my life with him. it was an romantic engagment and he presented me with a beautiful ring.
I feel so overwhelmed right now, I dont even know where to begin telling people. I dont want to offend anyone by not telling them first….ect. I also know I will have a girlfriend that will be totally jelous and rude about it. I feeling like this engagment is a very personal thing and im not ready to broadcast to the world. we have told my parents and his and also are siblings. The Anxiety of telling people all my personal business is taking the excitement out of the engagment.
Also I was a waiting bee for about 6 months…. now I feel i have nothing left to be excited about….everthing I have dreamed about for the last 6 months to a year is done. now what? wait for him to pick a date I guess…..
I guess i just dreamed I would be so happy when he proposed I would cry like a baby but that never happened. so I almost feel like I pumped myself up to much. for when it actually happened I wasnt as excited as I should have been…
is this normal? any other bee experience this?
Post # 3
I sort of felt the same way. I was so excited and happy when he proposed – I even cried, which I never do. But about an hour after the proposal I started to freak out a little bit. I was worried about how my parents and siblings would react and also about how all my friends would take the news. For quite a few days I didn’t sleep and hardly ate anything because I was so nervous about telling everyone. After I got the news out to everyone it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders because everyone was so happy and excited for us. My happiness and joy about the engagement came back and I haven’t felt the slightest bit anxious or upset since. I think many people experience nerves over proposals becuase your life is about to change. You are going to be married and have a new family and your life will be different. For me it’s both the most exciting and the scariest thing I have ever done in my life.
I hope you start feeling better. Congratulations on your engagement!! 🙂
Post # 4
I think you are putting WAYYY too much pressure on yourself girly! You don’t have to tell anyone you don’t want to until you are ready! Also I can tell you that now is as good a time as ever to start not caring what other people think (i.e. your jealous friend) because it will happen again about other stupid stuff. Getting engaged isn’t about getting a ring it’s about getting to marry the man you love, so everything isn’t over, it’s only just beginning! You have plenty to look forward to. And again, don’t pressure yourself to make certain decisions, tell certain people etc… By The Way I didn’t cry when my FH proposed and for a minute I thought maybe i should have been reacting differently. But just because I didn’t cry doesn’t mean I wasn’t happy so it really doesn’t matter. There’s no right and wrong way to do any of this!
Plus who says he gets to pick the date! 🙂
Post # 5
@Dolcebabe: When I first got engaged, I cried and then almost vomited LOL. I adore my now husband but I too was afraid of tell people because I’m private. I kept it quiet from extended family for a week and then my husband told them. It’s not uncommon.
It took about a week for me to become comfortable with the engagement but I’m very happily married.
The joy will come!
Post # 6
It was very weird for me too. I was very excited but it felt weird to tell my fam and friends. It’s been four months, and I feel totally comfortable and happy. It did take some time. I don’t know if it’s the transition or just telling people or what. Maybe it was the fact that I felt like I was supposed to act or be a certain way when telling people….I just didn’t know what to do. It was def a weird experience though!! You are not alone!
I also did not post pics of my ring on FB. I had a lot of people text me and ask for pics of the ring before they even said congrats. I felt like a lot of people just wanted to size my ring up, and it made me VERY uncomfortable. Like they didn’t really care about my engagement, but maybe were jealous or something. I don’t know, the only word I can think of that describes the experience is “weird!” and a little overwhelming…. but that did pass.
Post # 7
Thanks’s Bee’s! Hearing that these feeling are normal makes me feel a lot better. I am feeling a bit better today about things but it is also starting to calm down now.
Post # 8
People would SEE my ring before I would even get to comment. Not because it’s huge, but because I didn’t broadcast it. Didn’t have to… my parents and his parents took care of that.
Post # 9
oh man, it’s normal. I was overwhelmed and overjoyed when I got proposed to…then I woke up the next day with all this anxiety….like omg! I have to plan a wedding now…who do I tell first, who do I NOT tell…how do we handle this issue with my old best friend or the issue of my mom’s pessimistic additude, etc, etc. Also, I really couldn’t put my finger on alot of what I was feeling…I knew it had nothing to do with Fiance, or second thoughts….it was just me being emo in general, overthinking every little thing.
I think it took me a good couple of months to get used to the idea of being engaged…and stop being so anxious about the impending steps and just enjoy it. I also remember feeling like I would be so sad when it’s over because no one will ask me about my wedding…I won’t be the subject anymore.
Now I can’t WAIT for this engagnement to be over…I think I’ve had enough attention, thanks.