(Closed) Absolute No No’s at weddings

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

i can’t say.  Honestly, I am not critical in the least, I am very laid-back.  I guess I did go to one wedding that didn’t really have a reception- the bride and groom left right away- it was like a picnic in a park/ potluck to go have sex.  That was a little weird.  They never came back, didn’t eat with us, no dancing, nothing.  We (even though Boyfriend or Best Friend at the time was the best man) ended up hitting the town after we ate.  No beer, cake, just some weird salads.  We went to a local bar and did karaoke and danced.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t like it when the DJ doesn’t practice volume control during dinner. It makes no sense to be playing music so loudly at that point and it’s really annoying as a guest! I want to actually hear and participate in the table conversation. I’ve been to a reception where guests kept asking the DJ to turn it down, but after a few minutes, the volume would go back up. I had to talk-shout to the person next to me. So lame!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I went to one wedding (I’m sure I have vented about this before) where I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride had not gotten enough chairs for their guests– intentionally! There were about 125 people attending, and they had only rented 75 chairs. The bride’s logic was that “some people will be up dancing during the night/ getting food and drinks”. SOOO I guess we were supposed to like jump into an empty chair when someone got up to dance?

It was a disaster. The bridal party arrived late to the reception (we were helping bustle) and we had nowhere to sit. We leaned against the wall and balanced our plates on our laps. Ridiculous. And  so low class.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve been to two weddings where I thought the bride and groom were clearly being inappropriate.

The first one, the bride was 3 months pregnant and she got really drunk before the ceremony and barely made it down the aisle.

Second, a family member had a private ceremony then invited everyone to a reception to be held a couple weeks later. They showed up 2 hours late for their own reception. 50 of us were sitting there waiting, tried calling them, no answer, the caterer trying to keep everything warm. A bunch of people ended up leaving, and those that stayed finally decided to just eat without them. When they finally showed up, no apology, no explanation, all they said is “Yeah, we’re late a lot”.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Objecting when the preacher asks is the only absolute no-no I can think of!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Mighty Yeah, we’re leaving that out. No reason to leave it up to chance.

I can’t think of anything uber no no-ish, but I think not being able to keep the food warm is a bit of a no no as that is the caterer’s job and how they make a living.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

This thread is so funny!  I should start one of things I did at weddings before I knew better…

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@texaslawgirl:  I’ve been to a wedding like that too, it was awful!  50 seats for 150 people – and of course the elderly guests and family got to sit in those.  Standing in heels for 4 hours and trying to balance my purse, wrap, drink, and appetizer plate did not put me in a partying mood … I don’t think I would have minded as much if I was wearing more comfy shoes … oh and if it wasn’t on a Sunday night ….

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went to my cousins wedding and arrived about four days ahead of time. I never got to see her and only saw my cousin for about 5 minutes. During the reception they announced that there would be no receiving line as the couple wanted to go to each table and personally thank people. That sounds like a lovely idea, but they made it to five of their 30 or so tables and decided to go drink instead. The bride also had the DJ announce a “Thank You for the Gifts” mass message since she didn’t want to mail out Thank-You notes. I thought it was kind of tacky and rude to the out-of-town guests like myself. I’m not saying that I needed days of my cousin’s time, but it would have been nice to chat for an hour sometime during that week since I drove 14 hours to get there.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve been to receptions that were club-like…but that’s because that is what the bride and groom wanted. They wanted a big dance party. I don’t see anything wrong with it, but perhaps their taste is music was just not “family friendly.” Some people don’t see that as wrong, some do. I’m in the middle. I think people shoudl do what they want, but personally I would not play a song that I thought would be very offensive to some guests.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s a no-no when the guests wear club-like attire. There’s always a few trashy family members around, but the super low cut, skin tight dresses and tacky light up heels usually are on my “omigosh did you SEE HER?!” list. Oh, and coveralls, haha.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am having a club-like reception. If it is an absolute No No – OH Well! We are having 60 guests and 50 of them are between 24 and 32! It’s going to be a PARTY to celebrate our marriage and we are going to celebrate in the same way that we celebrate everything else in our lives!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@ejs2y8: I know what u mean i have been to a wedding recently and there were few girls in fishnet stocking…short shorts..low cut tops and stripper hills..should i EVEN mention how they were dancing?

another no no is a long wait between ceremony and reception it is just very tiring unless there is comfortable place one couple made us wait for them in the hallway for over an hour with no chairs!

thu i have never been to one but i do not like cash bars unless MAYBE if there was wine on the tables at dinner?  I do not drink myself so it would not matter to me 🙂

 

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

  • wearing white or trying to dress too formal/glittery or wear dress more formal than the bride
  • getting too inebriated at a wedding and making a scene
  • seeing the bride or groom not make it a point to speak to each guest and thank them for coming
  • risque songs being played by dj making things not appropriate for family or kids and gives guests uneasy feeling
  • people dancing well…also risque on the dance floor. 
  • seeing the bride and groom kiss way too long and have a bit too much passion at the ceremony.  I saw one couple and it appeared they were making out.  Not again for all eyes, and inappropriate for a family affair. 

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