Post # 1
I’m not highly critical of the way brides have their weddings. Everyone’s different but I attended my relative’s wedding this past weekend and was absolutely shocked that the terrible DJ, who was the bride’s bro’s friend, played 2 songs that had profanity in them. The ceremony was very lovely, yet, when I think of her wedding, I can’t get help but think of the DJ and how club-like the reception was.
I didn’t think there can be such a thing that’s considered a no-no at weddings, but I think I just found one. Has anyone witnessed something at a wedding that you think is an absolute no-no?
Post # 3
i can’t say. Honestly, I am not critical in the least, I am very laid-back. I guess I did go to one wedding that didn’t really have a reception- the bride and groom left right away- it was like a picnic in a park/ potluck to go have sex. That was a little weird. They never came back, didn’t eat with us, no dancing, nothing. We (even though Boyfriend or Best Friend at the time was the best man) ended up hitting the town after we ate. No beer, cake, just some weird salads. We went to a local bar and did karaoke and danced.
Post # 4
I don’t like it when the DJ doesn’t practice volume control during dinner. It makes no sense to be playing music so loudly at that point and it’s really annoying as a guest! I want to actually hear and participate in the table conversation. I’ve been to a reception where guests kept asking the DJ to turn it down, but after a few minutes, the volume would go back up. I had to talk-shout to the person next to me. So lame!
Post # 5
I went to one wedding (I’m sure I have vented about this before) where I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride had not gotten enough chairs for their guests– intentionally! There were about 125 people attending, and they had only rented 75 chairs. The bride’s logic was that “some people will be up dancing during the night/ getting food and drinks”. SOOO I guess we were supposed to like jump into an empty chair when someone got up to dance?
It was a disaster. The bridal party arrived late to the reception (we were helping bustle) and we had nowhere to sit. We leaned against the wall and balanced our plates on our laps. Ridiculous. And so low class.
Post # 6
I’ve been to two weddings where I thought the bride and groom were clearly being inappropriate.
The first one, the bride was 3 months pregnant and she got really drunk before the ceremony and barely made it down the aisle.
Second, a family member had a private ceremony then invited everyone to a reception to be held a couple weeks later. They showed up 2 hours late for their own reception. 50 of us were sitting there waiting, tried calling them, no answer, the caterer trying to keep everything warm. A bunch of people ended up leaving, and those that stayed finally decided to just eat without them. When they finally showed up, no apology, no explanation, all they said is “Yeah, we’re late a lot”.
Post # 7
Objecting when the preacher asks is the only absolute no-no I can think of!
Post # 8
@Mighty Yeah, we’re leaving that out. No reason to leave it up to chance.
I can’t think of anything uber no no-ish, but I think not being able to keep the food warm is a bit of a no no as that is the caterer’s job and how they make a living.
Post # 9
This thread is so funny! I should start one of things I did at weddings before I knew better…
Post # 10
@texaslawgirl: I’ve been to a wedding like that too, it was awful! 50 seats for 150 people – and of course the elderly guests and family got to sit in those. Standing in heels for 4 hours and trying to balance my purse, wrap, drink, and appetizer plate did not put me in a partying mood … I don’t think I would have minded as much if I was wearing more comfy shoes … oh and if it wasn’t on a Sunday night ….
Post # 11
I went to my cousins wedding and arrived about four days ahead of time. I never got to see her and only saw my cousin for about 5 minutes. During the reception they announced that there would be no receiving line as the couple wanted to go to each table and personally thank people. That sounds like a lovely idea, but they made it to five of their 30 or so tables and decided to go drink instead. The bride also had the DJ announce a “Thank You for the Gifts” mass message since she didn’t want to mail out Thank-You notes. I thought it was kind of tacky and rude to the out-of-town guests like myself. I’m not saying that I needed days of my cousin’s time, but it would have been nice to chat for an hour sometime during that week since I drove 14 hours to get there.
Post # 12
I’ve been to receptions that were club-like…but that’s because that is what the bride and groom wanted. They wanted a big dance party. I don’t see anything wrong with it, but perhaps their taste is music was just not “family friendly.” Some people don’t see that as wrong, some do. I’m in the middle. I think people shoudl do what they want, but personally I would not play a song that I thought would be very offensive to some guests.
Post # 13
It’s a no-no when the guests wear club-like attire. There’s always a few trashy family members around, but the super low cut, skin tight dresses and tacky light up heels usually are on my “omigosh did you SEE HER?!” list. Oh, and coveralls, haha.
Post # 14
I am having a club-like reception. If it is an absolute No No – OH Well! We are having 60 guests and 50 of them are between 24 and 32! It’s going to be a PARTY to celebrate our marriage and we are going to celebrate in the same way that we celebrate everything else in our lives!
Post # 15
@ejs2y8: I know what u mean i have been to a wedding recently and there were few girls in fishnet stocking…short shorts..low cut tops and stripper hills..should i EVEN mention how they were dancing?
another no no is a long wait between ceremony and reception it is just very tiring unless there is comfortable place one couple made us wait for them in the hallway for over an hour with no chairs!
thu i have never been to one but i do not like cash bars unless MAYBE if there was wine on the tables at dinner? I do not drink myself so it would not matter to me 🙂