(Closed) Absolutely Crushed….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you have an infection should you not be on antibiotics prior to the dental work?

Where I live a dentist would not touch you until that was under control.

Post # 33
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2093 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh and as far as your teeth…I am a huge believer in natural and holistic medicine. I have avoided many things using the natural way. I still go to dr’s…yes, but I don’t always use their advice first. I do a little research and then make the choice best for me. Of course you are in pain and swollen…I get the wanting of relief really fast. Maybe you can find something that will heal or lessen the situation.

 

I like earthclinic.com.

 

Of couse I’m sure you thought of it but can you cash in your 401 k or something? A credit card? Or like someone else suggested, credit that the dr might offer. Or coould you borrow the money from family or a few family members? Ugh. I hope I’m helping…

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Back in 1997 I woke up with my jaw in so much pain I couldn’t speak.  The dentist said it was an abscess and that my wisdom teeth would have to be removed after the infection was cleared up.  After a few days of heavy antibiotics I felt 1000x better, and a month later when the surgeon called to schedule my wisdom teeth removal I backed out.  So that was 15 years ago and I still have my wisdom teeth (much to the chagrin of my dentist).  I’m no dentist, but I’d find out from one whether the wisdom teeth can wait, they usually can.

I’d also find out exactly how much insurance will reimburse for each procedure – because in my experience dental coverage is pretty pathetic…  Although I’ve always had dental insurance, having my wisdom teeth removed was still going to cost me over $1K.  I also know that there are annual limits to what they will cover, as my ex had a lot of teeth pulled but could only get 1 implant per year due to the insurance limits.  I guess this is why even people with insurance travel to Costa Rica for major dental work…

So I guess what I’m saying is that IF (1) you can wait on the wisdom teeth, and (2)insurance isn’t going to cover a huge portion of the root canal… it may not be worth it to you to rush into a legal marriage if the benefit from insurance won’t be anywhere near $5K.  Just something to consider.  Take care!

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m so sorry you are going through all of this.  I hope everything goes well for you!

Post # 36
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337 posts
Helper bee

@cayday19:  

Oh goodness I’m sorry you’re going through this! That sounds painful! But definitely I think you should do it, get married this weekend and get the work done. You don’t want to die having been able to live if you’d just gotten married legally earlier,  you know? 

I’m going through a similar situation. My father is insane and may stop paying my health insurance before I get married. Fiance and I are discussing it, but are pretty much going to do the same thing you’re doing if that case occurs! You never know what might happen. I know how much it’ll hurt and how un-perfect getting “married” before the wedding will be, I’ve struggled with that, but you don’t have much of an option. I know for me, the warm fuzzies that I might miss out on aren’t worth $5000. But if you can, find out how much it’ll be on his insurance. If it’s not that much of a difference then maybe rethink it, but even if it’s %50 that will be a huge help. Just pretend you aren’t married! No rings, no name changing, nuttin. Hope it works out and you feel better soon!!

Post # 37
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7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Aw, I’m so sorry that this is happening to you. I don’t have any advice but I hope everything works out! 

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve had an abcess so bad it looked like I was smuggling a baseball in my cheek. It was not pretty. You need to get on an antibiotic ASAP. That will help clear up the infection and you can go from there. I know how it feels to be in a desperate situation with no insurance. Good luck and I hope it all gets straightened out soon.

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

to me it seems weird you are so upset? i dont really understand why its such a big deal-especially since you are having a wedding later on.  just my opinion though!

i got married @ the courthouse and i loved it- it was perfect and there was no fuss or stress, just us.

i don’t think your wedding bliss/experience will be ruined at all because you will be surrounded by friends and family on your big day, the little technicalities won’t matter.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@temtem1002:  She has a right to be upset, it’s not about whether or not courthouse weddings are any less or anything like that, it’s about the fact that she had plans and may be changing what her vision was. We all get upset when things don’t go exactly as planned, no matter how small! Also, she obviously has every right to be upset about an unexpected $5000 bill!

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@WhiteWedding:  yes i know.  i didn’t say she doesn’t have a right to be upset, i’m just saying i don’t really understand the big deal. sometimes it helps to hear other peoples perspectives even if you feel very differently.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

OP- for the pain, try dabbing clove oil on the tooth.

If it’s not a visible tooth, you can always have it removed at an er, and wisdom teeth tend to freak out and then calm down. Maybe your dentist is just thinking he/she should just get it all done while you’re in the chair? That’s not always the best way, though it is definitely the most expensive!

Post # 43
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

In sickness and in health, right? Taking care of your health is actually a romantic reason to show your comittment earlier! Taking care of one another is a huge part of marriage – this is your first chance to show that for each other!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

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@crayfish:  

 

I agree, and I’m surprised no one said something like this sooner! OP- THIS is what marriage is all about. Not the wedding, the fluff and the flowers, but two people in a life together.

 

Too bad life includes dental issues (have been there!)

Post # 45
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This isn’t a Wedding its a Civil Union Marriage. The wedding is the celebration this for you is no more than filing your taxes or heading to the courthouse for a trafiic offense. No worries not everything in life will be joined yet if you don’t want it to be. Hope you fee better Wisdom teeth suck. The good part is your man cares enough and loves you enough to marry you on the spot in order to protect your health. Count your blessings!

Post # 46
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1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OP in my case when the dentist did say I could wait almost a year to get insurance to get my wisdom teeth removed.  he took xrays and found that they weren’t causing any harm to the rest of my teeth.  i did have an infection caused by the irritation of them breaking through the gums so he sent me home with 3 months worth of antibiotics.  i was in so much pain initially i was just sure he would have taken them out right then and there.  after the infection was gone they haven’t bothered me one bit. 

 

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