(Closed) Abstaining prior to the big day?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

There was no way we could have done that. From what I’ve heard, it doesn’t really do anything to make the night any more special.  But, to each their own. Our wedding night was still amazing even tho we were together the night Wink

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JenuineMulder: You’re my date twin! And yes, we are trying to abstain, Fiance more than me. I really don’t think I’m going to be able to hold out…but good luck to you!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i am trying to abstain  Few months—future hubby aint having it thoughUndecided

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I hadn’t seriously thought about it but jokinly brought it up to Fiance and he did not like the idea at all. I don’t really think it would make much of a difference for us and seems silly since we already live together. It will still be special since we are officially married then.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my Fiance jokes about this all the time, says we should start now (wedding is a year away) ! i do think we will abstain for a month or two before the wedding though…

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t see the point since we’re already having sex, but more power to those of you with more self-control. ;D

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow that is a LONG time!! Actually we sort of did the opposite. With 55 days to our wedding we tried to do it everyday! However, this didnt really work out. It worked for the first couple of weeks, but then we just got so busy!! Then we were back to our normal schedule…but then we ended up abstaining for a little less than a week before our wedding because we were SO SO busy! We drove down to Georgia and stayed at my ILs house and since we were running around all day we would just fall asleep when we got back! The wedding night was AWESOME because of this – because it had been so long for us and we were both so charged from that AND from just getting married!!!

PS – dont understand why you would not have sex on your wedding night! Apparently its something like 50% of newlyweds do not have sex on their wedding night! I understand they say this is what the honeymoon is for but do it on your wedding night!!! I had some sexy lingerie so I just went into the bathroom, got out of my dress and put that on and came out. Then right after we went to sleep. So worth it!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We dont plan on it, its deff not for us.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

hahaha we are doing this….but not because we really want to!  I am sick, I get my period the week before the wedding, and we work crazy hours and we are sleeping when the other is awake…..

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We’ve discussed this and try to…then we forget haha!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Personally, I don’t see the point. I think being married is reason enough for the night to be special. Especially if you’ve already been having sex.

But hey, if that’s what you want to do, who is anywhere here to say it’s crazy?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JenuineMulder: I’m jealous that you only did it for 6 weeks! My fiance and I decided to do pre-marital counseling with our pastor and one of the “rules” when we signed up for it was to abstain until the wedding night. That was in April!! Almost 6 months! Needless to say, we have been counting down the months/weeks till the wedding! 3.5 more weeks….

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