(Closed) abstinance

posted 10 years ago in Christian
Post # 122
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am kind of late on all this and have read most of the replys, and i seriously dont see what the big deal of the OP posting their opinion/thought on the topic. I see you ladies post threads about all sorts of things, which most of the time, include your opinion, which, most of the time, does not match 100% of everyone elses’ opinions on these boards. It is important for us ladies to be respectful to the poster and appreciate the point she was trying to make. If you dont appreciate it, dont reply. Why waste your time if you just have something negative to say? She is obviously a very religious woman, and being a Catholic woman myself, greatly appreciate her coming forth with information. Although i dont agree that she should be putting that info out about someone else other than herself, she did not mention her daughters name and mostly kept her confidentiality. I think it was courageous of her to post such a topic that is not looked at to be widely accepted by most of the woman on these boards.

 

Just my 2 cents.

Give the OP some respect.

Post # 123
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just my two cents- I feel like it’s totally creepy for a parent to have intimate knowledge of their daughter’s sexual history, and to post about it on a public forum. Also, purity rings have always weirded me out. Is it necessary to advertise your virginity to everyone, including strangers? Women are so much more than this. As previous posters have pointed out, there are very very few guys who engage in this type of exhibitionism (because that’s what it is, plain and simple).

I’m a fairly religious person, but I don’t feel the need to share if Fiance and I waited. Posters who want to be all preachy should keep in mind Matthew 6:6- “When you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” Don’t post stuff like this in public forums and try to influence the decisions of mature women.

Post # 124
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Bee Keeper

I’ll give the OP the benefit of the doubt that she meant to post this on the Christian board.  Do any of you remember the first time you came on WB to post?  Did you ever post in the wrong board?

I move posts all the time, even for members who’ve been on here for months.  So OP, if you’re interested, I can move this post to the Christian board for further discussion.

Post # 125
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@MightySapphire: I didn’t mean to be snarky- this probably is better suited to the Christian board if OP wants to move it. I just wanted to make the point that it can come across as judgmental. I hope I didn’t offend anyone, just trying to stick up for people Smile

Post # 126
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Bee Keeper

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@Miss Taco Night: No worries!

It seems to me that all of the controversy erupted because she posted on one board instead of another.  It was assumed that she was targeting people or accusing people of something.  I think she was just excited for her daughter and wanted to share her viewpoint, which would be very appropriate and probably would have been much more accepted on the Christian board.  Posted in the Intimacy board takes this out of context, and tends to offend people, which I don’t believe was her intent.

Post # 127
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with mightysaphire 😀

Post # 129
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Sugar bee

EDIT:  I saw this thread is probably intended somewhere else–in any case, I’ll send  the OP a personal message instead.

Post # 130
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Bumble bee

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@Miss Taco Night: Yay! Favorite passage! I’m sad I didn’t see it before I posted it. Oh well, a little extra Matthew 6:5-6 never hurt anyone right?

Post # 131
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Sugar bee

Mttw 7:1-5

Post # 132
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Sugar bee

@artichokey:  Right, I was just trying to add Do not judge lest ye be judged.  I feel like she’s made a judgment and she’ll have to also be judged by the same standards by God.

Post # 133
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Bumble bee

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@beekiss2: yes! very good! I’m sorry, I’m tired. I am easily confused in these wee hours!

I totally agree. Thank you.

Post # 134
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@littlemissmango: I’m worried that comment is referring to cyneswith’s post about rape.  But correct me if I’m wrong, OP–I may have misunderstood you. 

@cyneswith:  I am so very sorry.  That sounds beyond hellish.  

Post # 135
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1032 posts
Bumble bee

@florence: oooh that is really mean… seriously. I can see how you are saying she talks about her personal decision to wait so that opens the door to look at the other personal decisions she has chosen, but dude, that had to be really hard for her and you have no idea what kind of pain she went through or if there was some sort of abuse. 

I have to say to the OP, I think you raised your daughter very well, but I agree with the other ladies quoting Matthew, I am not sure which verse it is but I remember Christ saying something about: if you worship God in front of people and expect praise for it, you have already received your reward on Earth. Basically, if you are doing something to make God proud, keep it between you and God unless someone asks for direction, help, or a suggestion. 

Post # 136
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@Lhammond: “btw: If you’ll notice, I never said sex was evil, wrong, or dirty.” Four sentences later: “… because she knows sex is a beautiful thing when it’s right.”

All right, so you didn’t say it before, but you did now. Sex is wrong, until it’s right. Uh-huh. ‘Cause that notion of “wrongness” is just going to fly right out the window as soon as I say “I do” and put a ring on my finger.

Ms. Lhammond, people like you are precisely the reason I don’t attend church anymore. I mean, why should I, when everything I do is a sin, and I can’t make the church (or God, apparently) happy, no matter what I do?

I sincerely wish the best for your daughter (and you).

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