(Closed) Acceptable dress for black tie optional?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Cute dress but looks more like cocktail attire. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it is fine.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think black tie when I see it to be honest. I’d keep looking….. Cute dress just not too formal IMO 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Even dressed up I think that the dress is too casual. I would be leaning towards  a more dressy cocktail dress.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Having just been to a J Crew outlet (I recognize your dress from the factory website) and seeing similar cotton dresses, I think the material is a bit casual for what you’re looking for. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@Marinara:  once you get there people will be dressed all different, some more dressy some less. if you want to wear that and not have to buy something new, maybe a really sparkly necklace and other jewelry/accessories (belt?) to play up the formal evening look? When I think “black tie” I do think a lot more dressy than that look, which for ex is something I would wear to work, but it is a cute dress and I don’t think you HAVE to buy something else if you really don’t want to. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Marinara:  Looks/sounds great and totally appropriate! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Not formal enough for black tie optional.  When I see black tie optional I see dressy cocktail dresses and long gowns.  The dress you posted is too informal; imo it’s dressy casual or business casual.

Per etiquette: 

  • Formal (floor length) evening gown
  • dressy cocktail dress
  • a little black dress
  • dressy separates

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

no

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

While its a really cute dress I just don’t think it will cut it. To me black tie optional is still a longer dress!!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@Marinara:  adult prom lol! right! but really you’ll prbly see a mix of more and less appropriate things at the wedding. last formal wedding i went to i saw cocktail dresses in head to toe sequins, floor length evening gowns, even elbow length gloves (really?) but at the same time some people were dressed wayyy more casually too. 

 

personally i think black tie optional for a woman is either a floor length dress, or a formal cocktail dress. doesn’t have to feel crazy over the top or cheesy like a prom. if you want something to double for work, you’re prbly best off with a cute little black dress that you could play down with a cardigan or something at work and up for a wedding. 

 

now after all this talk here’s some examples just for fun!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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