Post # 1
The invitation of the wedding I’m attending says “black tie optional.” (I did notice that the wedding website says “black tie preferred.”) Do you think I would be dressed appropriately if I wore this dress accessorized with black satin sparkly clutch, black satin strappy sandals, black pashmina and hair up? My husband would wear a black suit and evening tie. Do you think that will get it done, or must I go dress shopping? Thanks ladies!!
Post # 3
Cute dress but looks more like cocktail attire.
Post # 5
Oh, how is cocktail attire different from black tie optional? I was trying to figure out and I keep seeing that women should wear cocktail dress for black tie optional… really confused…
Post # 6
I don’t think black tie when I see it to be honest. I’d keep looking….. Cute dress just not too formal IMO
Post # 7
Even dressed up I think that the dress is too casual. I would be leaning towards a more dressy cocktail dress.
Post # 8
Having just been to a J Crew outlet (I recognize your dress from the factory website) and seeing similar cotton dresses, I think the material is a bit casual for what you’re looking for.
Post # 9
@Marinara: once you get there people will be dressed all different, some more dressy some less. if you want to wear that and not have to buy something new, maybe a really sparkly necklace and other jewelry/accessories (belt?) to play up the formal evening look? When I think “black tie” I do think a lot more dressy than that look, which for ex is something I would wear to work, but it is a cute dress and I don’t think you HAVE to buy something else if you really don’t want to.
Post # 10
I bought the dress intending to wear it to work and also to the upcoming wedding, but then I was a little thrown by the “black tie optional” dress code. I totally agree that “black tie” is something more formal than this, but I am just confused about what “black tie optional” can mean… I was hoping this would fit into “black tie optional” if I dress it up, even though it’s not right for “black tie.” But I guess I need to buy a new dress? When I do, I shouldn’t try to find a “black tie” dress, right? I mean I shouldn’t show up to this wedding in an evening gown, right? People won’t be dressed like adult prom, or will they?
Post # 11
@Marinara: Looks/sounds great and totally appropriate!
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Not formal enough for black tie optional. When I see black tie optional I see dressy cocktail dresses and long gowns. The dress you posted is too informal; imo it’s dressy casual or business casual.
- Formal (floor length) evening gown
- dressy cocktail dress
- a little black dress
- dressy separates
Post # 14
While its a really cute dress I just don’t think it will cut it. To me black tie optional is still a longer dress!!
Post # 15
@Marinara: adult prom lol! right! but really you’ll prbly see a mix of more and less appropriate things at the wedding. last formal wedding i went to i saw cocktail dresses in head to toe sequins, floor length evening gowns, even elbow length gloves (really?) but at the same time some people were dressed wayyy more casually too.
personally i think black tie optional for a woman is either a floor length dress, or a formal cocktail dress. doesn’t have to feel crazy over the top or cheesy like a prom. if you want something to double for work, you’re prbly best off with a cute little black dress that you could play down with a cardigan or something at work and up for a wedding.
now after all this talk here’s some examples just for fun!