(Closed) accepting a job offer DRAMA-help!

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Its not really ideal if you end up leaving after a month, but its acceptable with the proper notice.  I would just plan on never being able to get a job with that company again.  And, actually, I know people who have left jobs that they’ve been at for only a week.

Post # 4
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

take the job. if you get offered the better one, put in your two weeks. but you will burn that bridge (but it doesnt seem like it’ll matter to you)

Post # 5
876 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What is the job offer?

Also, where do you live? School District jobs are very hard to come by depending on your region so you may not get into a district at all. I have friends who have been trying for years here in NY. Most school districts in my area interview and hire as much as possible in the spring, not the summer. You may not want to give up this job and end up with nothing.

Post # 6
5827 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think its kosher to leave a job after a month unless something nuts is going on (someones sexually harassing you, they’re not paying you). I wouldn’t take a job if you’re not going to stop your job search. Also, you’re kinda throwing the person who referred you under the bus. I almost never refer anyone because I don’t want to risk their behavior reflecting poorly on my judgement.

Post # 7
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Many school districts that I’ve worked with like to hire before summer, so I would take the job offer. Not worth risking it with the state of schools right now!

Post # 9
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 How long will Company A hold the position for you? I would let them know that you are waiting for another potential offer at the end of June before making a decision and see if they will let you wait.

 Also most companies have a probation period for this reason. If you aren’t comfortable in seeing if they can wait a little while longer, then ask about their probabtion period. Its a normal enough question for a new hire because it affects your vacation time and in some cases your benefits. This period protects the company and you in the event that you decide that you aren’t fitting in to their work environment/culture.

Hope This Helps

Post # 11
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012


Umm….at first I thought I just read a post I posted minus a few details. I am in a very similar situation but mine doesn’t deal with education. With my situation, I just took the job. The what if’s are killing me but I just keep reminding myself of a thing I read on NPR’s website about new grads and not getting jobs. (I’ve been out since Dec but really didn’t start looking until late Feb and this is my first offer).

I don’t think it is acceptable to quit after a month unless like one person said about extrenouating circumstances (like harassment). In fact, I met with a career adviser at my college who told me at all costs try to do 1 year…otherwise you look bad. I personally thought it was 6 months for the rule but she says otherwise.

On a side note, my friend is wanting to teach-but for college. (She has a phD). She said that they like having the highering done before summer (if starting fall, which most do)…and only do it once a year…with rare exceptions. So if that applies to other educational opps-which it sounds like it might. I would say take the position and reapply for next year.

Post # 12
1329 posts
Bumble bee

@supervixen:  Okay, I am giving my professional and personal advice.


My professional advice is that any time you accept a job offer that is a refferal from a friend, family member, etc etc…then you make them look bad if you don’t work out (quit, get fired, etc) and it can damage a relationship. If you know for certain there won’t be any ramifications, then it’s not all doom and gloom. However, it depends on what you said in your interview and also how you sold yourself. Companies are sometimes gunshy about hiring recent grads as statistically, you leave your first job rather quickly (as you are not alone in the thinking to take what comes your way cuz you got bills to pay!). I have met candidates who were quite open with their current employer that they want to be X and if X comes along, they are going to go for it…and a good employer will give a glowing review and be happy that they are not blindsided.

Recruiting and interviewing, hiring, etc is a pain of a process and it costs the company money and time to get down to a candidate (you).  If you are entering a role with the mindset that you are holding out for something better, will you be able to emotionally commit to the employer fully and e an outstanding employee? How will you handle the referrals feelings?

Personally, my advice is that you never know what the future holds and that call could not come for months. It looks good that you are gainfully employed right out of school and not floating around. I see a lot of that and those candidates are viewed negatively most times. I would probably take the role to gain experience, and make the best of it.

Post # 13
7030 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would take the job. While it’s not ideal to quit soon if something else comes along, in the meantime it will pay your bills, and in this economy that is important. You might surprise yourself, and it could end up being a good thing.

When I was out of college, I took a job that I really didn’t want to. It was in my field, but I wasn’t thrilled about the job. I ended up staying for 3 years, and while I still wasn’t thrilled being there I learned A TON, and it was the starting platform I needed. I did leave to start my own business, and I can honestly say that while I was not thrilled to be working there it got me where I am today and I will always be thankful for that. The work environment was stressful and less than desirable, but I would no be as successful now had it not been for that job.

Post # 14
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Take the job. You have no idea when a school district job will open up. If where you are is anything like where I am right now, people are taking a number and waiting in line for years to get into a position within a school. I would take the new job and continue searching.

Post # 15
1277 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would take the job, school districts are too fickle right now….unless your a teacher you work year round so it’s not all the vacation you think you get.  My Mother-In-Law works year round as an HR Manager…she has great benefits, vacation time,but still works year round.  Like other bees mentioned you may end up learning a lot from this job, getting more job knowledge and experience that you can move  on and use in other jobs.

Good Luck to you!

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