Post # 1
Okay so i just got my first bridesmaid invite the other day. But I am struggling with how to respond. I definitely want to be her bridesmaid but I have lost touch with her over the years just because we live very different lifestyles in different cities and life just got away from us both. We were best friends for 15+ years before this so there is definitely an obligation to say yes. But i am not sure how to go about telling her. I want to just text her and thank her/ congratulate her because we never have really been the talk on the phone type of friends but I am not sure if that would come across being rude? Can anyone suggest ways to respond other than calling? I’m not sure the proper way of doing this since this is clearly my first time being a bridesmaid. Thank you in advance for the help!
Post # 2
Wait, do you not speak on a regular basis? And she asked you to be a bridesmaid.. in a card..in the mail?
If I were you I would call, but I were HER I would have called to ask you in the first place – if not asked you in person. But I don’t know if it’s a great idea to be a bridesmaid for someone that you don’t seem very close to or comfortable with.
Post # 3
Did she send you a proposal box thing? You could take a picture of you with the box to include in your acceptance text. Or you holding a glass of wine as of saying “cheers!”. I have a mostly texting relationship with my bridesmaid and even tho I asked her in person we were too excited for her to officially accept she just kept saying congrats to me lol so she ended up texting me saying that if it wasn’t clear it was a “yes”
Post # 4
Honestly she might low key be freaking out that you haven’t responded if you received it a few days ago. Shoot her a text saying thank you and you’re so excited to be part of her special day and then send her some flowers next week or a little bridal item from amazon (mug, book, shirt, etc)
Post # 5
If you don’t keep in touch I would be hesitant to agree to be a bridesmaid. Do you have any idea what her expectations are? Are you prepared to travel to more than just the wedding? What differences are there in your lifestyles?
I would immediately send my congratulations, but I would want more information before I said yes.
Post # 6
Just pick up the darn phone, call your friend, congratulate her personally if you haven’t already and thank her for the honor. Accept if it’s something you feel moved to do, but no, you are not at all obligated. If budget is an issue let her know up front.
I don’t like to assume that someone is going to be a bridezilla, so I’d go into it assuming the price of a reasonable dress, getting to the wedding, and accommodations, though the latter is really supposed to be provided. Anything else is or should be optional and up to you.
Post # 7
I don’t see how a text would be rude if she didn’t even call you or see you in person to ask in the first place! I’m assuming she just sent you something in the mail.
Post # 8
If you don’t even feel comfortable calling her on the phone and having a 5 minute conversation, I’m not really sure you should actually be her bridesmaid.
Crikey, this is why I hate when people make production out of this sh*t.
“Hi! I’m getting married. Would you please be a bridesmaid?”
“Sure! I’d love to!”
Done. It’s not that complicated.
Post # 9
ebridesmaid19 : If you want to try and rekindle a lost friendship then do that but accepting to be a bridesmaid for someone you lost touch with years ago is never a good idea, especially of one of the reasons you let the friendship fade was lifestyle differences.
Post # 10
I think sending a card is a perfectly acceptable way to ask someone to be a bridesmaid. The bride might have wanted to write a note about their friendship, and now the potential bridesmaid has something she can keep and look back on if she chooses.
OP you can text or call to acknowledge the card and give your answer that way!