(Closed) Accepting help from parents

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@organizedchaos:  I would feel the same way – I’d have reservations about it all!  Like I owed them something or had to display over the top gratitude or something.  I’m not used to being handed things!

Post # 4
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@organizedchaos:  I hear you. My family never ever talks about money and my parents are more comfortable just paying for things as they come (meaning when we’re about to hand over the credit card my mom will stop and say “oh let me get this”) but I’d rather have a set limit and set budget.

I’d breify look around to see if there’s another venue (if you haven’t already) and if it really is the best option then let your mom put in a bit more. You don’t have to feel guilty about it if you’ve done your due diligence and really looked for an alternative. She’ll be ok with the money once she sees how happy you are on the day.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@organizedchaos:  

Go with what is going to make things for you EASIER and keep stress off of you. We have decided to pay for everything on our own but the Fiance parents have helped up with the down payments on everything and I’m so thankful! It cost a lot to put a down payment on everything you need to just hold the date. Accept the help on the little things, plus it will let them feel like they are helping/involved.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Graciously accept their help.  It’s not about money, it’s about them showing you that they care and want to be involved.   Give yourself this – let your life be easier.  Planning a wedding is hard enough!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsTVLover:  +1 “Give yourself this – let your life be easier.”

They help decorate and work out parking?! Ummm…yes.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Depends on your relationships with your parents! My sisters and I did not accept help from ours, as they would put conditions on the money–in essence, it would give them a license to have things more their way. There would be issues with amounts as well (assuming parents are divorced).

I’m only mentioning this as noone has yet said anything in this thread about considering the drama factor if the contribution amount increases. There WILL be line items in your budget that will end up costing more, hopefully some that will cost less too.

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