- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
TL;DR: I’m super poor right now, and my SO wants to send me some money each month. Do I accept?
I’m a student and dependent on my parents. Money is so tight for them, so I don’t want to ask them for any more than they already give me each month (which covers my rent and utilities).
I had an awesome tutoring job last year making $25/hr, but that seems to have fallen through for this school year. I’m not having luck finding other tutoring jobs or freelancing, so now I am applying for serving and hostess positions. We’ll see how that goes.
I’m having to dip into my savings each month to cover groceries, birth control, gas, basic household items, etc. I am as frugal as can be and fret over every little dollar I spend.
My SO knows how stressed it all makes me and that I don’t have much savings to begin with. He has a decent income and has offered to send me $100 each month, which is the amount extra I need to feel comfortable with my current finances.
We’re LDR, and if it wasn’t for the distance we’d be living together with joint finances, but I am still hesistant to accept. I hate not being financially independent.
While I do cover my airfare when I visit (which is pricey since he is in the UK), he covers most of the expenses for both of us when I am there because I simply can’t afford it. It makes me feel guilty because I don’t want to be a burden and I wish we were more equal financially right now.
He assures me I am not a burden, and I know his expenses and that it isn’t hard on him to pass along a hundred bucks to me each month. We’ve talked money a lot, and he knows if he ever feels pressured or resentful because of it, that he is to talk to me right away about it. This has never happened, and he honestly seems 100% fine supporting me whether I am physically there visiting or not.
I know I’d do the same for him if he was struggling and I had the means, but I’ve always had such a fear of being a burden on others.
Do I accept his offer, or do I shrug it off and keep trying to make things work on my own?