(Closed) Accepting that I am going to be a fat bride

posted 11 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t get down on yourself. I am trying to lose weight for my wedding too, and I gained 4 pounds so far!!!! (off to a great start huh?!) NO matter what you weight though, you are a REAL BRIDE! And you will look so gorgeous and beautiful and your husband will be the happiest man in the world. And you will look like you! ๐Ÿ™‚ No worries, just enjoy

Post # 4
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

You know, all of us want to look our best, but your Fiance asked the you he fell in love with and spends every day with to marry him, and he will be ecstatic to see that you walking down the aisle. That is what matters. Besides, the “happy bride” glow does more than makeup or weight loss ever could. 

Post # 5
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Totally!  First I was going to lose 50lbs, then 40, then 20 and yeah I ended up somewhere around 8 – 10.  And to add to the horror, my dress was sleeveless and I NEVER go without sleeves and was absolutely horrified that I was going to be “arms out” and fat.  But in the end, it was all fine.  Your Fiance, friends and family love you just the way your are.  I told my photographer to try and make sure I had one chin in all my pictures and to make my arms look thin.  And you know, she kind of did, always positioning my flowers or other people so that I looked good.  And in the rest of the pictures I look so happy because I just gave in and enjoyed the day that I don’t even notice the flaws.  Oh, and I learned how to use photoshop a bit and took off a few more pounds that way ๐Ÿ™‚  Don’t sweat it, it’s too much pressure and not worth it- trust me!

Post # 6
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hey Professor!

I have also been trying to work on weight loss and it’s hard! No matter your weight you are a “real bride” and will look beautiful in that dress! Also, keep in mind that you are getting married to someone who loves you and will think you are gorgeous in you wedding dress!

If it would make you feel better maybe you can set a goal to go the gym a couple times a week, take walks, eat more veggies or sleep more at night before the wedding etc… You may not lose a lot of weight, but those kind of things help me deal with stress and make me feel better.

Post # 7
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As long as you feel great thats all that matters!!!!! Because as everyone else has said your FH and your family already love you!! SO ROCK THAT DRESS GIRL!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

April is still far enough away you can loose some weight, and even 10 lbs makes a world of difference! Don’t worry about alterations, they could get them done in a week if they needed to. If you tell them now they might not charge you an arm and a leg.

Post # 9
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You are going to rock that dress no matter what!  Bee positive and have a blast.  Everyone that attends loves you for YOU.  

Post # 10
539 posts
Busy bee

I started losing weight before we were engaged, and lost 1/2 of my goal. We got engaged, and I have not lost a single pound more. I decided to go walking and eat a little healthier, just so I feel better about myself, but I am not convinced I will lose more weight…and I feel a little bummed about it too.  

Remember, he loves you for who you are, and all that you are!

Post # 11
1454 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m the same. I’m trying to tone up before March 20 but I don’t know what I’m honestly capable of! My solution for myself is to try and find a little bolero (for my comfort in the church) and just enjoy it, since Fiance LOVES me the way I am!

Post # 12
243 posts
Helper bee

Don’t feel bad! I think it’s a horrible misconception that a bride MUST lose weight before her wedding. 

Since this has you feeling down, maybe just focus on eating healthier foods or cutting out the one guilty pleasure food, and view it as getting healthier, and not necessarily as a diet where the goal is to lose weight.  By eating healthier you’ll probably end up just feeling better physically and mentally even if you don’t lose any weight.

Most importantly: your husband-to-be loves you for who you are right now ๐Ÿ™‚ Always have that as your main thought.

Post # 13
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

You’re going to be a beautiful bride no matter what you weigh!! Like a few others have mentioned, you still have plenty of time to lose some pounds but don’t make that your ultimate goal bc if it doesn’t happen, you don’t want it to effect how you feel about yourself on your wedding day… Whatever happens, I hope you feel like a confident happy version of yourself when you get married!


Post # 14
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

In the same boat girl. Immediatley after we set a date my anxiety was so high that I couldnt eat for a week…I hoped that would be the cure to the 50 lbs I want to lose. It wasn’t. I still have 7 months and hope the anxiety kicks in again hahaha. In reality i am trying to eat alot better, no real results yet but I’ll keep trying. My mom gave me this framed saying and it said “Planning a wedding is like coloring when you are 4, everyone will love it because they love you” keep that in mind. Good luck!!

Post # 15
1154 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve no intention of losing weight and I’m a real bride thank you.  Well, okay I’m not really a bride until the day of but an engaged girl.  There is no way you have to act or be to get married, you just have to want to marry your love and have your love want to marry you and you’re already ahead of the game.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I feel you on this. I’ve set some pretty lofty goals for myself in terms of weightloss – kind of unrealistic goals when I think about it – but at the end I know that, even if I’m not necessarily where I want to be, my Fiance will think I’m the most beautiful woman in the world and it won’t really matter. We get it in our heads that we HAVE TO look a certain way or we are SUPPOSED TO lose X amount of weight but really they love us for who we are.

If you’re really feeling down about it, you do have time to shave off some pounds if you commit to eating healthy and exercising a few times a week. The holidays are really brutal for any attempt at weightloss and January tends to be a wake up call when you step on that scale! I know I almost passed out the first time I weighed in in the New Year.

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