(Closed) Accessories from previous marriage

posted 6 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If it was your wedding ring, I’d say no, but for this I’d say it’s totally fine!  

Post # 4
2603 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not one to be that superstitious about these things, so if you love them and they’re ideal for the look you want, why not? Plus, you can also see them as a gift from mom to you, rather than as symbolic of the first marriage. 


They are, in the end, just things. 

Post # 5
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d wear them. If the sage helps you get passed the first marriage thing i would totally do it. Its not like it was a wedding ring and it wasn’t gifted to you by your first husband. i say go for it if you love them!

Post # 6
9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@gertrude:  Since you already love these pieces and they were a gift to you from your mother, I don’t see the harm in wearing them again.  

I love your idea about smudging with sage to clear them of the past. 

If you don’t mind my asking, do you have a specific ritual that you use?  I’m learning about this kind of thing and would love more info. 

Post # 9
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

The jewelry was a gift given in love, by a person you love. I think it’s fine to wear them (I really like the idea of the sage smudge)

My parents are divorced, and I’m wearing my Mom’s garter for my old & blue. It was a failed marriage, but without that marriage, I wouldn’t be here- I was a product and a success of that marriage. So I’m a firm believer that you can give items new associations.


Post # 11
9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@gertrude:  Thank you so very much for the information.  I love your ritual.  I tend to smudge silently, too; I sometimes walk around my house with the burning sage in an abalone shell. 

I can think of a couple of things in need of cleansing so I’m planning a ritual soon.  I don’t have an altar that’s set up all the time (because of lack of space) but I do have a beautiful leather chest with all my spiritual tools.  I always make sure to include Spirit, earth, air, fire, and water elements when I set up.  It’s a beautiful practice, I always feel peaceful and relaxed afterwards.  The entire thing is calming to me.  I also make my own loose incense from herbs, resins and essential oils, for my own use only.

How did you get interested in this?  (Sorry for threadjacking but at least you’re the OP, lol).

Post # 14
1069 posts
Bumble bee

I would wear them! They’re from your mom, not your ex

Post # 15
375 posts
Helper bee

I have a personal motto for just situations such as this:

Why waste good jewelry?

As I see your wedding has already happened, I hope whatever you wore made you feel radiant.


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