Acciddental HIV exposure, need lots of hugs please

posted 1 month ago in Emotional
Post # 2
218 posts
Helper bee

I’m so sorry this has happened and understand and totally sympathise with how you must be feeling 💛 I know it’s very different but when I’ve been waiting for test results for cancer it has been on my mind every day until I’ve got the results.

 That medication is rough too which I’m sure isn’t helping. Is there any way you can take it easy especially on the next few days, would your work be understanding if you took a few days off to be with your fiancé?

I know it might not make a difference emotionally but I’d suggest to just keep reminding yourself of the statics. The chances are very low. Even lower at this point that anything would happen to a future child of yours, just 0.006%. There is probably a 0.006% that lots of things could happen to any child. Try not to focus on a statistically unlikely worst case scenario if you can. When you know more you can make an informed decision then, and in that (unlikely) event, i’d suggest counselling, including genetic counselling, to work through your options and your choices for children.

sending you love and strength bee. 

Post # 3
9509 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m so sorry bee. Sometimes life is shitty for no reason but hopefully your results will come back all clean.

Post # 4
6832 posts
Busy Beekeeper

keikochan :  flip the statistic – your chances of NOT contracting are 99.7% which is fantastic! And don’t count out children – my husband has a friend who contract HIV as a toddler due to a contaminated blood transfusion. She is now in her 30s and lives a full and happy life. HIV isn’t the death sentence it once was. 

All the hugs the internet can send. It’s going to be a stressful 6 weeks and nothing we can say will change that, but keep yourself busy and try to keep yourself as distracted as possible. 

Post # 5
10022 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

keikochan :  

Oh, honey. I am sorry for all of the anxiety this is creating for you. It is certainly understandable.  I hope you can find some comfort in reaching out to the people who love you, especially your fiancé. This is such a bad time for you two to be unable to connect.

You certainly understand the medical and technical details far better than I, so I won’t attempt to address that.  I will just say that the Bees are here, we’re always open.

Post # 6
218 posts
Helper bee

Also here’s a cat playing a guitar that I find both cute and funny xxx

Post # 7
196 posts
Blushing bee

Oh Bee, I’m so sorry – sending you big internet hugs. It’s natural to consider the repercussions of the worst case scenario. As difficult as it is at this time, try to keep hope and a positive mindset. As the previous poster mentioned, the statistics are very much in your favour; you took all of the important actions after exposure. At this time, there is nothing that you can do but wait. Waiting is hard – it can feel like putting your life on hold. Don’t spend this time fixating on the what-ifs; instead plan some activities to look forward to. Maybe these are lunches with friends, little road trips, market visits, a spa day – anything that offers you a positive distraction. You could also choose to use the 6 weeks as a time to challenge yourself to learn a new skill (language, crafting, etc) or anything else than interests you.

The intention is not to minimize the seriousness of the potential, but rather to focus on your own resilience. You’ve now mapped out the bridges you may have to cross in the future, there is no need to revisit them over and over until it becomes necessary to cross one of them.

Last, for what it is worth, I am in constant awe of all those in the healthcare profession. You are amazing – thank you for working so hard and selflessly to provide the best care you can. 


Post # 8
2469 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

keikochan :  if you’re a nurse/health care worker you’ve been exposed to so many bacteria and viruses in your life I bet your immune system is better than most… your chances of contracting anything is probably less than general public.   Don’t be afraid to ask your doctor for a prescription for some antianxiety meds to get you through the next 6 weeks. Hugs girl!

Post # 9
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m so sorry, Bee. I’m an HIV researcher and the likelihood of transmission is so very low, esp if you are on PEP right away.

I know it’s going to be hard to wait, but hang in there. Try to focus on today, rather than the million whatifs, esp as it relates to TTC.

Post # 13
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Oh Bee, I’m so sorry that this is happening to you! I can totally understand how you feel, I imagine I would be in a panic attack state for the whole time. I send you a lot of hugs and hope that your results will come back negative!

For the baby part, it just needs to go on hold for now until you know. It sucks that you were already gaining weight and where already so much into planning, but what counts for now is that you take the medication.

I just add a photo of one of my furbabies, I hope it brings you a smile! 

Post # 14
694 posts
Busy bee

Sending you so many internet hugs. I work in a hospital lab and totally understand the anxiety regarding exposures. I had a needle stick one time, luckily from a non-infected elderly patient but still waiting to hear she was clean was anxiety inducing for me. Keep that 99.7% stat in your mind. As far as I know the risk is higher with a needle stick so you’re already on the better side of statistics with a splash. I will keep you in my thoughts! 

Post # 15
218 posts
Helper bee

keikochan :  I’m glad it made you smile. 

Bleugh, I’m so so sorry. I’m sure you know this being a nurse but crystallised ginger is the *only* thing that got me through chemo nausea. I found it more useful than any anti sickness tablets. Might be worth a shot?

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