(Closed) Accidental contact with ex

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

DONT apologize. DONT contact him again. In fact, you should really have his number blocked.

Post # 5
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

End it right here and now. The more you contact him the more he will persist to contact you back and you will continually in his own words, “continue to give him hope.” You softened the blow as you say, that is far more than enough. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

stop responding. If you respond you give him the opportunity to keep talking with you.  I would even recommend changing your number.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsWBS:  +1.  This, exactly.

Post # 8
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Aquababes:  stay safe! I had a scary crazy ex once too. You never know what they’re capable of.

Post # 10
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9642 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Aquababes:  Yep, crazy exes are nothing to mess with.  You’re a good person and want to do the right thing, I understand.  But he’s not normal, as you probably already know.  He just wants to manipulate you.  Don’t let him back in, he could make things miserable for you again.  You’re better off putting him way, way, way in the past.  Good luck!  I really hope he leaves you alone.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No no no no no no no no no!  Don’t ever respond.  Don’t ever EVER give him even a fingerhold back on your life!  If you give him an inch, he will move back in and try to trap you forever!  Allow no more contact ever again.

I’m sorry you are going through this, especially during the holidays.

Post # 12
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2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If I were you, I would also change my phone number and delete his. It’s best not to contact him or give him ways to contact you again.

Be careful. I wouldn’t have lied to him and said, “it’s not you, it’s me” because he could twist that somehow.

I hope he really does leave you alone. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I made the mistake of trying to leave on a good note with an irrational guy…

…he showed up at my work, screaming at my coworkers that he was going to wreck my car.  When I finally came outside, he told me that he was going to commit suicide because I ruined his life.  He screamed for about as long as it took for the cops to show up.

He was arrested for public disturbance and he was hospitalized for a psych exam.  He called me to pick him up from jail claiming that I got him into this mess so I would have to get him out of it.

In a moment of clarity, I realized that if I went to get him, he would never get out of my car, and he would never be out of my life. 

I hung up on him and refused the hundreds of phone calls and texts.  Instead I got paper work for a restraining order.

Nothing good can possibly come from interacting with an emotionally abusive ex!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@MrsWBS:  +1

Please don’t contact him again. Call your phone company and have his number blocked. Block his email address. Delete and block him from Facebook (if you have it). Seriously going to be the best way you can move on with your life.

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