Post # 1
Okay, what a wonderful first post, right? I have been silently stalking these boards for so long I actually forgot I didn’t have an account! Anyway, on to my tiny (hopefully) issue.
My Soon to be and I are planning our wedding for October 2012. Well, we are a bit OCD and have almost every detail of the wedding figured out, including tentative seating charts. (Crazy I know.)
Nearly 100% of our guests are coming from out of town. We are transplants to St. Louis and our families come from Oklahoma (mine) and New York (his). I have not discussed the details of our wedding hardly at all with our families on purpose. To eliminate drama. Almost every thing I have mentioned is getting picked over, dismissed and fought over. Frankly, the only way I can plan the wedding I want is to not tell anyone what we are doing. Sad but true.
So, now that you know a bit of my backstory, here is my issue: A pseudo buddy of mine just got married. And apparently his new wife and I have been following the same blogs. I mean the.same.exact.blogs. Its actually A)a little creepy. B) relieving that it works out as nicely all pieced together as I had hoped. C)INCREDIBLY Awkward.
I mean almost EVERYTHING is as I had planned mine. I guess I’m not as orginal as I thought, but its crazy! Same colors (teal and orange). Same cake (simple 3 teir with pinwheels). Same bouquet (orange gerber daisies with a few pinwheels here and there). Everything.
Now, as I mentioned, this is not a super close friend of mine. I wasn’t invited to the wedding and I wouldn’t have gone if I did. Its a year and a half away from mine. So what’s the big deal? We have lots of the same friends who probably did go to the wedding. At the very least they saw the pictures thrown all over facebook just like I did. And I don’t want any one to think I copied them. It would be different if it was just the pinwheels. But the style of the dress? The bouquet? The EXACT colors? Its freaky bad.
So I guess what I’m asking is what to do. Is this a big deal? I really don’t think it is. I don’t plan on changing anything. I just want to know how to politely answer the questions I am bound to get on why our weddings were so identical.
Post # 3
if you haven’t already bought this stuff… why not just change the colors a little bit? just shift the colors and most people won’t notice if anything else is the same or similar.
Post # 4
I say stick to your plan. Most people won’t remember in a year and a half… esp if they just saw the picturs on facebook. She may see your pictures and think you copied, but that is really not a big deal. Also, maybe your tastes will change a little… you do have a lot of time… some other blog may inspire you?
Post # 5
I would change some details. I mean, I am really into making things MINE and original, so personally, I wouldn’t be able to take it. There are so many options you can use with those colors. For example, you could go crazy with a whole carnival theme. You can get ideas for example at http://www.brendasweddingblog.com, hope it helps!
Post # 6
Thanks guys for the quick response!!
Rosworms: I’m sticking to my guns on the colors. I have already started making so much, plus the teal and orange are perfect for our venue and us. I was looking at this other brides photos and it actually appears her color palette was “anything bright.” Her bridesmaids wore pink, purple and blue. So that makes me feel better.
Amyisnice: That’s what I’m thinking too. It was just such a shock to log on to Facebook and be like “who has been peaking in my super secret planning journal!?”
claudlara: I think after the initial shock wore off that it will be different enough to make me happy. I really do think that everything we have done has made our wedding “ours” and original. If she had pinwheels too, oh well right? How many brides do the same unique cupcake instead of a cake thing?
All in all I am happy with what we are doing, I’m not going to change anything because of pictures posted of a wedding of a distant friend on facebook. That’s silly. This is my wedding that my soon to be and I have planned from floor up based on things we have found that make us happy. Our will be unique and special and different. No matter how many other people use teal and orange as their wedding colors or have pinwheels instead of flowers, who else has a TEN STORY SLIDE at their reception hall and triceratops bride and groom cake toppers? Really, I think I am worrying about nothing. I can’t even believe I had a momentary lapse in reality big enough to cry about it to the internet universe. Boo hoo me, right? 🙂