(Closed) accidental engagement…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Country_Pearl:  Hi!! What a funny story – us girls can definitely get wrapped up in it all sometimes!  If you honestly would love anything that he picks, then I would definitely just try your best to let him do his thing!! It will be such a great surprise when you see what he went with (I know how tough that can be – we love to plan!)

If you and your SO have a mature relationship (which it seems like you do!) and you are concerned in the least bit about not liking what he picks, I dont think there is anything wrong with being honest and telling him that you are really particular (my nice way of calling myself very picky!) and that you don’t even know what you would like to wear on your finger for the rest of your life so you wouldn’t expect him to know either.  Say you want him to make the final decision, but since you are so excited and its such a large purchase, you’d love to be a part of the browsing process to get ideas together. 

This is so unromantic but I actually compared buying a ring to the purchase of a car so that my SO understood where I was coming from.  I asked him if he would feel comfortable knowing I was going to spend a substantial amount of money on a car for him without getting his thoughts on type, color, size, etc.  After that, he had no problem going ring shopping together.  Hope this helps and congratulations 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do you think he will pick something awful? I don’t know, it sounds like you’ve given him input and should trust he listened to it. Is it really that much about the shopping experience or would you just not be happy with him buying a ring (with you previous input) and proposing to you?

I guess I don’t understand why this would cause such angst. So many don’t even get to this point it seems foolhardy to keep pushing when you’ve been told to let him take over now.

 

Best of luck however it pans out 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Country_Pearl:  Ahh gotcha. He’s not really a general ‘others’ though is he?

Post # 8
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Country_Pearl:  Plus, even though I’ve given him input, we really do have different tastes, so I’m worried he’ll pick something that’s more to his liking than mine.

This was me, BUT I got the ring he wanted that was mostly my input with a little of his (I wanted a low setting, small sparkly diamonds everywhere, and possibly a halo) The thing was that I wanted a round or an asscher. I got a princess. We NEVER talked about princess cut ( I don’t dislike them, just not my first choice) and I loved it. I loved the surprise of not knowing what my ring looked like and that mine was one of a kind (he designed it).

I did however ask him one day why princess and his response “I hate rounds” lol. Can’t argue with that.

I bet you’ll love whatever is given to you!

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