(Closed) Accidentally closed message thread ( no sarcastic comments please)

posted 11 months ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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If you’re not having sex I’d suggest coming off hormonal contraception. The synthetic hormones can make mental health issues worse

Post # 32
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Lacie23 :  

Oh, sweetie. Logic is not going to mmake the anxiety quiet down.  The anxiety existed before your fears around becoming pregnant and it is now pegging itself to that.

The Bees suggesting therapy are right. You are suffering way too much. You don’t have to, Bee. Anxiety is treatable. Meds may also be appropriate for awhile, as you learn new management strategies.

The PP who mentioned that hormonal birth control could exacerbate anxiety may be onto something as well. It may be worth a discussion with your doctor.

I do think you will find talk therapy to be very worthwhile, Bee.

Post # 34
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Lacie23 :  It doesn’t matter when your blood test was done, whether it was this morning or in 2005. You have not had sex; thus, you are not pregnant. 

If this is a serious post, please seek help. If not, get a life.

Post # 37
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Lacie23 :  You have received 3 pages of kind and thoughtful, well-intended advice from dozens of bees. Not one person who has replied to you here believes there’s even the slimmest chance you could be pregnant, but you’re still posting updates that imply you think you might be. You need to see a therapist because the internet is not helping you; I believe it’s just causing you to spiral further. 

Post # 38
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Lacie23 :  Bee it is literally impossible for you to get pregnant by making out with someone, no matter what SexEd teachers and religious figures may say.

Most hormonal forms of birth control are around 99% effective at protecting pregnancy from sexual intercourse. If you did not have sexual intercourse, you are not at risk of getting pregnant.

Sperm function to fertilize an egg, but they are not so strong that they can move through his clothing onto your clothing, then onto your labia and up your vaginal canal, into your uterus.

Also keep in mind that hormonal birth control stops you from releasing an egg. So there is nothing for sperm to fertilize.

Literally millions of people rely on hormonal birth control to protect themselves from pregnancy, and birth control is highly successful even for couples who do have full vaginal intercourse without condoms.

Think of it this way: you can’t start a car without gas. Your egg is the catalyst for pregnancy, it’s one of only two things you truly need to get pregnant, and your eggs are kept in your ovaries, they are not being released into your uterus. It’s like being worried that someone will steal your car from your garage, when the car has no gas and the only tank of gas is in a locked cabinet in the kitchen. And to add to that metaphor, imagine if the person trying to steal your car (like sperm are trying to get you pregnant), was 1,000 miles away. That car thief is no where near your house and even if he got in, there is no gas in the car to steal it. It is literally impossible for anyone to steal your car.

Any sperm inside your boyfriend’s ejaculate would die in his underwear or pants, before they even touched you. To give you an idea of scale, sperm traveling that great of a distance would be like you walking across North America and the Atlantic Ocean to reach London. You would drown in the ocean before you reached Europe, just like the sperm will die before they ever touch you.

You are 100% safe.

Do you understand?

Post # 40
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Lacie23 :  Bee have you thought about speaking with your boyfriend about your anxiety?

Birth control is recommended for people who regularly engage in full vaginal intercourse, like airbags to protect you in an accident. It is said that the only 100% sure way to never get pregnant is to never have sex, just like people who never ride in cars don’t get into car accidents. So if you’re truly this worried about pregnancy, just make sure you and your boyfriend continue to refrain from sex.

The hormonal birth control does alter your hormones and change your body chemistry and I truly would not recommend it if you’re not having vaginal intercourse. You’re putting unnecessary strain on your hormones.

Anxiety + hormone-changing medication are a bad combination. I would suggest continuing to take steps to not get pregnant (not having sex), and discontinuing the Depo shot. You are introducing hormones into your body unnecessarily.

Hormonal birth controls trick your body into thinking your pregnant, and many women feel anxiety, bloating, nausea, breast tenderness, etc. just like some pregnant women do. I take the pill and often certain smells make me feel sick, just like a pregnant women feels morning sickness. It could be that the additional hormones are making any anxiety you have, worse.

 

Talk to your boyfriend about how you can both prevent pregnancy (it’s his responsibility too)

Stop taking birth control until you regularly have full intercourse

Talk to a therapist to help manage any existing anxiety

Pick up yoga or meditation to help you on the days when you can’t see a therapist

Post # 42
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Lacie23 :  On April 10th, you would have been over 3 months pregnant if this “incident” even could have gotten you pregnant (which is also impossible). There is 0% chance of a false negative blood test at 3 months pregnant. ZERO CHANCE.

 

YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT. Please keep repeating these facts to yourself when the anxiety creeps in.  There is a 0% chance of a false negative blood test, you are not pregnant.

Post # 43
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I’m closing this post. 

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