(Closed) Accidentally Emailed FI my wedding dress….DEVASTATED.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Like others have said, it will be ok! He’ll forget what you even looked like. He’s a guy. He’s marrying you, not your dress. You think he will recall details of the back of your dress a few months time from an email he looked at for like 10 seconds?!

I’d say “devastated” is a pretty strong word for this… if someone dies, it’s devastating.

This is just a dress.

I think the wedding stress is getting to you. It’s just one day of the rest of your lives, try not to think about it!

Post # 48
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If he opened it and then closed it right away, I’m sure he barely got a glance at it… which means all those beautiful details that you love about the dress are still going to be new to him.  He may have caught what the shape of your dress is, and that’s probably it.  If you asked him if it was lace, tulle, satin etc I bet he couldn’t tell you. 

I have shown my Fiance many dresses online just to get his opinion on what he likes and he’s admitted that I could show him a dress I loved, and he wouldn’t be able to recall the details of it later bc they just aren’t as into it as us.  Although when I’m wearing my dress and standing in fron of him it’ll be different.

But in a photo or whatnot, he won’t remember those details.  Just rest assured you’re still going to have your moment… it’s not like he got to look you up and down and take in the beauty and detail of your dress… he probably took a 1 second glance, realized what it was and deleted it

Post # 49
3292 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Meant2Bee:  I think taking a wedding break is a good idea (I realize this means you probably won’t see this message, but, oh well ๐Ÿ™‚ ).

Just step back, take some deep breaths, and don’t get too mired in the details. Remember that seeing a picture of you in your wedding dress on a random day is NOTHING like seeing you in real life in your wedding dress on your wedding day. 

Post # 50
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Meant2Bee:  Yes, please take a break. This is supposed to be a fun/happy time and you’re clearly not having fun. The majority of us have had our freak outs or meltdowns along with stress and an overwhelmed feeling at some point during the planning process. It’s natural. Take a breather and try to focus on something else for a bit.

It sounds like you have a very nice, supportive Fiance ๐Ÿ™‚ I often have to remind myself that the point of this day is to become Mr. CarterLove’s wife and at the end of the day, that’s all that matters. The dress, decorations, cake, music and guests are wonderful but if it doesn’t all run as planned, it is NOT a big deal.

I hope you feel better soon. I hope this turns around for you & becomes exciting again. Good luck!

Post # 51
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Meant2Bee:  Aw hon I’m sorry that happened.  I would be sad too.  But remember you’ll look even more stunning day of, and you’ll be walking down the aisle to be his WIFE!  Believe me, in the long run, it’s not a big deal. 

Post # 52
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I emailed my Fiance a pic of my dress…on purpose.  I was shopping alone without anyone and I didn’t know if it was a good dress or just my mind.  He texted back “you look beautiful.  Do you like it?”

I sent him 4 other pictures that day too.  I deleted them from his phone when I got back.  That was months ago, and he is a guy.  He has no memory of the dress.  It is not a big deal. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 53
3940 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

When my friend went wedding dress shopping, she fell in love with a dress, it looked amazing on her, everyone oohed and ahhed, so she bought it. A week or so later, she saw it Pinterest and pulled it up and showed it to her Fiance under the guise of simply asking his opinion about the style. His response? “Why would anyone in their right mind buy that dress?” 

She was devestated, but decided to keep her choice because she felt great in it. And you know what? Come wedding day her Fiance could not stop oggling her and telling her how gorgeous she looked. When she reminded him that this was the dress she showed him he didn’t like, he had absolutely no idea. 

I promise he won’t even remember by the time your wedding comes around, and if he does, I’m sure the real thing will be 100x better than any picture. If I make my Fiance look at wedding dresses, he will eventually get frustrated and say, “Men don’t care about this stuff. All these dresses look the same! I feel like we’ve been looking at the same dress for a half hour!”

Cheer up and don’t let it get you down :/ I hope you come back from your break from a new perspective!


Post # 54
457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Meant2Bee:  Awww, I know it’s devastating right now but you’re going to look SO different the day of with your hair and makeup done, carrying your bouquet, your veil on, etc etc. Really, don’t be sad about it – he’ll probably forget what it looks like before then anyway!

Post # 55
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

It doesn’t count!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 56
2009 posts
Buzzing bee

@Meant2Bee:  I guarentee my Fiance could look at picture of wedding dress for an hour and the next day have NO IDEA what it looked like. They don’t pay attention to that kind of detail (especially since it seems he quickly realized he shouldn’t have seen it).

1. It’ll look so different the day of with your veil and flowers and hair and makeup.

2. Photos NEVER do a dress justice…seeing it in person is a whole different thing!

I totally get that you’re upset, I’m traditional too where I wouldn’t want him to see it beforehand. But I really don’t think he’ll remember much about the photo and if he does he’ll be blown away the day of by the contrast ๐Ÿ™‚

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