Post # 1
The original plan was to get the dress custom made (FMIL is a high end seamstress). Long story short, went dress shopping for inspiration, walked into a steeply discounted sample dress (FMIL literally said buy it and we can modify it – it’ll cost more to make from scratch with the beading and lacework).
It’s this dress: http://www.bloomfeld.nl/project/berta-bridal-16-123/
FMIL/FI/that side of the fam think it’s gorgeous and I should leave it as is but some of my relatives might pass out. We’ll be lining the bottom but would love any ideas you might have for making it more conservative.
Any help very much appreciated!
Additionally, I’m at a total loss for what to do in terms of jewelry/hair/etc. The initial thought is to keep it simple and sleek (neater bun or half up/down, maybe a simple delicate gold choker, drop earrings) to avoid the whole thing veering towards gaudy but maybe I should be trying to match the intricacy a bit more? Bah.
ETA: Any thoughts on how to modify the back? http://www.berta.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/16-123-768×1024.jpg
Future Mother-In-Law really is incredible at what she does so we can change quite a bit…just I need to let her know what I want :/
Post # 2
Line everything from the neckline down so that it doesn’t look like you’re naked. Maybe do champange or blush so that the lace stands out. Fill in the space between your boobs with fabric the same color as the lining. Done.
Post # 3
I agree with PP, you’ll want to seriously line that thing. Either do a color or white-not nude. You can leave the sleeves alone if you want, though.
Post # 4
testytesttest : firstly, you didn’t “accidentally” end up with this dress. You made the choice to buy it. You didn’t place and order with a salon, and the wrong dress was shipped, and now you’re SOL or wearing the sexy dress. You chose to buy it – so own your choice. Next, you can think of what to do about it. Easiest is just to leave as-is. After all, you bought it for a reason – you must like it. It’s yoir wedding day and no one else’s. Don’t let someone else dictate your clothing choices. Women have to fight hard enough against that as is. If YOU are truly uncomfortable in the dress, you could add a full lining. I’d choose some color thats not nude, or you’ll still “look” naked even if you aren’t.
Post # 5
testytesttest : Sorry, I got nothing.
Also, can’t help wondering what a low-end seamstress does. I never had my K-Mart clothes tailored.
Post # 6
Thanks for the quick replies guys! (especially since I know I’ve been a totally lurker!)
Lining it is definitely the easiest fix – I’m just having a tough time envisioning what it would look like fully lined. I feel like the dress would look a bit old and frumpy if it just became a long sleeved, opaque lace dress. But, lining it halfway also seems like it look funny. Future Mother-In-Law did mention that one option might be to take some lace off the long train and reposition it to cover the deep V a bit more.
It looks much more decent in the photos here: https://www.stillwhite.com.au/67581-berta#2
catskillsinjune : That’s fair! I guess I say “accidentally” because of all of the berta dresses I looked at online, this was the one that I laughed at and was like “no, no way, what IS that??”. It looked way different on me and I didn’t realize it was THIS dress until afterwards.
Post # 7
testytesttest : I’m having a hard time envisioning it looking less naked on you than on her. It’s a completely sheer dress.
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Post # 10
testytesttest : The deep V is A problem, but it’s not THE problem. The unlined/nude-lined version looks like body stocking. The pics where it’s fully lined in white look ok. Are you saying you think those pics look frumpy? If so, I guess just go with the body stocking.
Post # 11
Line the entire dress, including the chest portion. The sleeves will still be see through and sexy without giving your family a heart attack.
Post # 12
Daisy_Mae : I have! Well, not literally K Mart but back when I had to wear business formal everyday, I had my mango/hm stuff tailored all the time. As long as you start with decent fabric, the most noticeable difference between a hm sheath dress and a much more expensive one is fit. Plus, you have to get the expensive stuff tailored anyway, so might as well save some $$ out of the gate.
Anyway, the original intent of the phrase was just to convey that I trust her to do pretty much anything to this dress since she does alterations for a few A list celebrities. We could probably take the sleeves off and work that into the rest of the dress if we wanted to.
Post # 13
If your family tends toward passing out, I think the only fix is fully lining it. Anything leaving it sheer/see through will require smelling salts and set tongues wagging. Finding an ending point for lining the top may be a challenge – but FMILs experience will come in handy making those decisions.
Post # 14
Definitely fully line it. Unless you’re also changing the neckline and the back, there’s no way that dress will ever look frumpy, even “with” the lining.
Post # 15
This girl had a berta dress fully lined in white (I guess it was made like that) but maybe looking at it can help you with ideas. Her sleaves are not lined and it looks sexy but not naked
What about having an overskirt for the ceremony? It would make it more romantic for that moment and then you could take it off for pictures/reception