Accidentally ended up with a very sexy dress – how to modify/style

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Maybe your Future Mother-In-Law has a suggestion for how to line it in a way that won’t look “frumpy” to you — perhaps some sort of white/blush material that is still somewhat more sheer than an opaque lining or a material that has a shimmer to it? That way you don’t look naked but it’s still more daring and maintains the vibe of the dress, which you were obviously drawn to.

Other thought is putting more lace in the deep-v-neck. It’s a sexy dress in many ways, the form fitting, the low back, etc. You can afford to lose one sexy element and it won’t be missed. The deep-v-neck might be the one element that people fixate on most easily and can point to to say it’s “too sexy”.

I love deep-v-necks personally and picked a dress that has one, but it also has a more conversative/traditional overall vibe. I think it’s all about balance whichever way you choose to go.

It’s gorgeous by the way. Lucky you to get a Berta on sale and have a Future Mother-In-Law that can work her magic!

Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Your dress is stunning please post pics of it on! I like the fully lined look with Ivory too that someone posted. 

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper

testytesttest :  

I feel like the dress would look a bit old and frumpy if it just became a long sleeved, opaque lace dress Sure,  yes,  that dress can easily  look frumpy ,  skin tight, plunging necklines always say frumpy, the very definition of frumpy to me. Old too,  yes , old folk always wear stuff like that. 

Of course line it, all the way , half way linings always cheapen the look of a dress. And not in some some nude fabric that looks like pretend see-through.    

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

bumblebug :  Fill in the back, too. Can’t you exchange the dress for something reasonable?

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

  isadelc507 :  I really like the overskirt idea!

I think if you love the dress, then leave it totally as-is or make a small modification. No matter what dress you choose, or what alterations you make to that one, someone at your wedding is going to hate it. Haters are going to hate. Wedding dresses are such personal choices and inspire strong feelings in people who “would have choosen something else”. If YOU love it and your Fiance loves it, then go with it and enjoy your wedding day. 

FWIW I love it. 🙂

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I feel like you don’t accidentally buy a sexy dress. If your parents/family’s concerns about the dress mattered to you than you wouldn’t have made this purchase. If that’s true than just own it as a sexy dress! Otherwise that’s a lot of reconstructing bc that is a lot of skin

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

Every body type is different so seeing you in the dress could help the bees more with suggestions. 

 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Whilst I agree with PP that lining the dress is a good call (and I don’t think it would make it look frumpy at all) I don’t think there’s any way to make it more modest without changing the shape (I think the phrase bodystocking has been used). Even lined it’s going to show off every curve and covering the cleavage is going to change the look. I don’t know OP.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

Well, there is a lot about this dress that says naked. So lining it (fully, not just the bottom like you were thinking) would hopefully help with that. And hopefully it will be enough to make the dress seem a little more tasteful as far as the nudity aspect is concerned. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

 

testytesttest :  it’s so gorgeous and you should leave it as is. :O

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

Line it but depending on your shape and the fit I dont think you need to do the sleeves or the back.

If the neckline fits like on the model the id say that could be okay too. However if you start having a cleavage then maybe add a bit of lace and lining to help add a bit of coverage. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I don’t understand how you could have bought a very revealing dress accidentally. You bought the dress that you liked are you trying to change the dress to please everyone else but yourself? Or are you truly unhappy with the dress

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I assume you aren’t getting married in a church, because I can see them nixing this dress. 

I would make the lining a pale blush, so the lace still shows, and it is certain guests aren’t seeing your skin. The back could be sheer lace. That front part should be hauled up at least a few inches. The sleeves can stay the way they are.

But that’s just frumpy old me.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Everyone on here is being so rude and condescending and passive aggressive. If you can rock that dress I say do it! Haters gonna hate. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

jachoo146 :  agreed. It’s a little unclear from OP if she wants to modify the dress for herself or only because she thinks her family will freak? I really don’t even think this dress is even that over the top sexy personally — a lot of women choose form-fitting styles and v-necks/low backs are really in fashion. The long sleeves and all-over lace gives it some balance. I really don’t think you can go wrong with Berta. 

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