Accidentally found out im getting proposed to!!! Feel so guilty.

posted 6 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
330 posts
Helper bee

No need to feel guilty, you weren’t snooping. I’d personally not mention anything for at least a few months. I accidentally found out my proposal date a month before because I went into his computer to email something and his conversation popped up. I just pretended like I didnt see anything and it was hard to keep my excitement contained. 

Post # 3
3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Don’t feel sad! If anything be excited that it could be happening soon! I had a huge feeling that my husband was going to propose the day he did and I was still surprised and floored because I had no idea what his exact plan was. It will be special regardless.

Post # 6
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Might be awhile if he doesn’t know your uncle contacted him.  πŸ˜‰  

Hopefully, he checks in with your uncle.  

Post # 7
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Aw don’t be upset, be excited that you know he might propose soon! Plus it was a genuine accident so you shouldn’t feel guilty. I was 99% sure of the day my fiance was going to propose and even almost exactly how he was going to do it (he’s terrible at keeping secrets so it was pretty obvious haha). I was right, but it was still so so exciting and surreal to be actually happening even though I knew it was coming! 

Focus on enjoying the anticipation, I was SO excited leading up to when I thought he was going to propose and I think it added to it if anything πŸ™‚ 

Post # 8
169 posts
Blushing bee

Don’t feel bad. You still don’t know when the proposal will happen or how he will propose. It could be in a few weeks or end of this year. Who knows? It will still be a surprise πŸ™‚

Post # 9
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I had something similar, while helping FH with an email as he clicked back into his inbox i saw an email from a jewelery designer and as we had a trip coming up i pretty much knew. 

On the trip i tried to put it to the back of my mind as much as i could, and i dint think it spolied the moment at all. Even expecting it doesnt prepare you for how truly incredible it feels <3 

Dont let on that you know, just bask in the joy that things are going well and it wont be long! 

Post # 10
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom

I also figured out ahead of time and had a little guilt, because he thought (and still thinks) it was a surprise. My SIL’s found the ring receipt in the back of my car and they handed it to me asking me if I needed it. I read it and it stated a diamond engagement ring was sold. It was close to Christmas so I knew when it was coming and everything, and I felt so bad I obviously didn’t feel surprised. Either way, I was happy and emotional with his words and will forever cherish the moment! Don’t think too much about it, as said above you don’t know when he will propose, he can catch you off guard and even if he doesn’t, you will be excited! You don’t know what he will say to you or how the ring looks yet!

Post # 11
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I wouldn’t worry about it, most people do know that a proposal is imminent from having the discussion, or if you’ve picked out the ring or know he purchased it. Doesn’t make the proposal any less special! 

Post # 14
43 posts

svlove :  congratulations!!! would love to see some pics of the ring.

I for one think that you can let this one slide unless he asks you directly. I don’t think a proposal is hurt by the recipient knowing about it by any means, but if it’s something that’s important to him, then it’s a little different. At most you can tell him that you had a feeling the time might be coming (which is true) but you were blown away by him doing it now (which is also true)!

Post # 15
22 posts

Congrats, Bee!! What an exciting time for you two. Personally, I would take it to the grave as I wouldn’t want my SO to be disappointed that it wasn’t a “total surprise.” Just enjoy these moments, share the news with your loved ones, & start planning! You’ll forget this feeling of already knowing it was coming in no time.

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