(Closed) Accidentally opened bridal shower gifts, and now I feel guilty :(

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
2228 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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dgirl715 :  I had no idea! It makes sense, I guess it just never occurred to me. My ex and I didnt register for anything when we got married and Fiance and I won’t either. I didn’t realize there was established etiquette for this situation, so my bad!

Post # 17
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

i wouldnt feel guilty, if a package arrives at my door, im probably going to open it regardless of what holiday or occasion is around the corner. Christmas might be the only one id consider not opening wrapped packages. 

they should have sent you a quick text or email, stating they shipped your shower gift early. Personally i dont know if id rewrap all of them just to unwrap them again. 

id reach out to them and clarify the confusion and thank them for the gift. 


personally i dont get the point of bridal showers. But thats just me. 

Post # 18
7980 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You are supposed to open them, just not USE them in case you have to return it. You can return a blender that’s been unwrapped (though shouldn’t really throw away the box), but you cant return one thats been used lol. 

Post # 19
8031 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If something comes to my house with my name on it you better believe I’m going to open it.

Post # 20
257 posts
Helper bee

Don’t stress yourself out about this, its truly not worth it in the end!

If you’re feeling badly, just take the two gifts to bed bath and beyond and explain at the customer service desk. I’m sure they’ll rewrap them for you right on the spot, no harm, no foul, unless your Fiance has contacted the two ladies in question and told them their gifts were unwrapped.

Like everyone else, I’m wondering how the hell you’re supposed to know the difference between wedding and shower gifts? I had to call my mom and ask about my aunt sending gifts and whether I was to wait for the shower to open them cause it wasn’t clear. 

If for some reason, you can’t get the rewrapped, go out and buy two really nice bows or some ribbon and dress the exisitng product boxes up and have your bridesmaids kind of hide them at the back of the pile of gits you’re sure to accumulate as people arrive. Or just wrap them in some really basic simple wedding paper from the dollar store! 

Post # 21
6952 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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missjoy0819 :  You did nothing wrong. You’re supposed to open gifts as they come in. Did these women expect you to be some sort of mind reader?

Post # 22
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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missjoy0819 :  Why cant u just re wrap it and pretend it didnt happen? 

Post # 23
14145 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You did nothing wrong. Wedding gifts are supposed to be mailed ahead of time and acknowledged as they arrive. If this was supposed to be a shower gift then someone should have told you.  Sounds like that someone was supposed to be Fiance, so this is on him. It’s also a risk the aunt took by not bringing the gift to the shower herself.  

In the scheme of things it’s not a big deal. I’d just rewrap it and open again at the shower. 

Post # 24
6364 posts
Bee Keeper

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futremrswhite17 :  I think it’s because Fiance told them that she had opened the gifts.  So they know she opened them.

Post # 25
4259 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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missjoy0819 :  Aww you’re totally not at fault, here! There’s no way you could have known that one of the gifts was meant for the shower. It shouldn’t have been sent directly to you. I hope this can all be resolved without any hard feelings. 

Post # 26
731 posts
Busy bee

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missjoy0819 :  How were you supposed to know it was a shower gift? sounds like nothing said so. It was a honest mistake, I wouldn’t be mad at you if I sent one of the gifts. I’d just re-wrap them and open them at the shower. If it comes out at the part that you had accidentally opened them early, people will probably just get a bit of a laugh out of it. These things happen, just have fun at the shower and try to take it all not so seriously. Bridal showers are a party where brides get dressed up in toilet paper dresses and people love it, I don’t think a few gifts accidentally opened early should be a deal breaker.

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