Post # 1
Need some advice. I’m having trouble figuring out who is responsible for the bridesmaids accommodations. The wedding is over a weekend in VT. The bridesmaids will be coming up Thursday – Sunday and we will most likely be staying in a house on the property we’re getting married at. Should the bridesmaid be paying for their portion of renting the house or is that for me to cover? I don’t want to ask for too much since I’m already asking them to take off work. Would it be acceptable to have them pay a portion of the cost? The only other thing the bridesmaids would be responsible for would be their dresses. Thanks!
Post # 3
I think it’s generally accepted that the BMs pay for their own lodging if it’s needed… But I also think it’s incredibly awesome to offer to pay at least a portion of it if you can.
Post # 4
I think they should be responsible. If you are able to make the arrangement and maybe pitch in a little bit that would be really nice, but certainly not required.
Post # 5
If you can handle the cost of the rental on your own without too much trouble it would be nice, but its not a big deal to ask them to chip in either.
Post # 6
They would be responsible. They can also share rooms to help ease the cost, but if you can cover a bit, then it would be a great bonus.
Post # 7
I guess it depends on how much your bridesmaids can afford. I had a local wedding so my girls didn’t have to pay for lodging if they didn’t want to stay overnight (my Maid/Matron of Honor stayed anyway and paid her own way). If I had a Destination Wedding though, I probably would have atleast paid for a portion of their accommodations since they don’t really have much of a choice in the matter. I don’t think you have to pay anything towards their lodging but I’m sure your girls would really appreciate it if you did.
Post # 8
Bridesmaid or Best Man would be responsible or at least thats the way it is here in NY across the “pond” or Lake Champlain…..lol. Where in VT are you getting married? I got my dress in Rutland and my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses in Essex Junction. Nice to see someone semi close to me on here….lol
Post # 9
I don’t know – I think it depends on the location of the wedding. Metropolitan area with lots of choices for hotel rooms? I’d leave that up to the bridesmaids, since they have choices for price range and can opt to share if they want. But if you’re getting married on a castle in a rural area with no other choice for lodging, it would be nice of you to pay. Otherwise it feels too much like you’re forcing them to pay for something you decided alone.
Post # 10
I agree with the PPs who say it is the BMs responsibility. If you can afford to cover some that would be a nice bonus for them. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my friend’s wedding in VA and everyone (including the bride) was coming from Out of Town – I came 2 or 3 days early to do a last minute bachelorette party. I paid for my hotel rooms for the whole weekend (split with another friend since I was still a poor grad student).
Post # 11
If you’re dictating where they stay, then it’s your responsibility. So you can’t choose a place all on your own, then say that everyone’s share is $200 a night. Now if you speak with all of the bridesmaids and they agree to split a rental equally (and agree on the cost of the rental itself), then it’s safe to ask them for payment.
If they have to pay for their own accommodations, then they have to be free to choose to stay elsewhere.
Post # 12
Things must have changed since I first got married twenty years ago. Back then it was tradition for the bride and groom to be responsible for the lodging of their bridal party. It was quite common to have them stay with family and friends.
I’d say if they are choosing their own accommodations they can pay for them. If you are choosing where they stay then it’s on you.