Post # 1
I’m trying to finalize the enclosures for my invitations, and I wrote out the hotels, addresses, and rates for which we were able to book room blocks. My dad tells me that I shouldn’t post the rate we got on the cards. Is that right? If I don’t post the rate, then how will everyone know what the price is?
I mean, we’ll put more detail on our website with info on parking, directions, etc., but does anyone know what the proper etiquette is here?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I wouldn’t post the rates. Our card just listed the name, address, phone number and the day by which guests should book to be included in the room block. They will figure out how much it costs when they call to book!!
Post # 4
I’m not sure either. We didn’t have the rate on our accomodation cards, but I know of other people who did include it on theirs. I guess it’s whatever you are most comfortable with. Sorry I’m not much help.
Post # 5
I put our group code on the information card and told them to use it to get a reduced rate.
Post # 6
@blurmeblue: I agree with @coyote:. I would list only the name, address, telephone number and website of the hotel, along with wording that a block of rooms has been reserved for your wedding. Any additional information beyond that should be on your wedding website, or people may contact the hotel directly to find out this information.
Post # 7
I would post the rate so that your guests can make sure they get the discounted rate (assuming there is one for the wedding). I just think if you don’t put the rate a lot of people are going to call you and ask if the price they were charged is correct.
Post # 8
Do you have a wedding website? I listed the rates of the hotels there.
Post # 9
@blurmeblue: For ours, I plan to write something like “When making reservations, please request the __(our last names)____ wedding room block in order to get a special rate.”
I don’t know, to me it’s not the best idea to list the rate on there–but that’s just my preference.
Post # 10
why wouldnt you put the price in there? is it against etiquette? i just never heard it was wrong to include that info! now i am curious!
is it because its rude to mention money or is it more in case there is an error with the rates?
Post # 11
@MaggieL: yes, I plan to list all the rates and parking payment details on our website. in chicago, they charge an arm and a leg to park overnight.
I guess I never thought that we shouldn’t include the price on the accomodations card??! Is this one of those things that is frowned upon (like listing your registry on the invitations)?
Post # 12
I wouldn’t list the rates. It’s easy enough for the guest to call and find out. Plus, if there’s an error, it can create problems.
Post # 13
We included the rates and also the parking fees. I felt this was the most helpful to the guests making their planning which IMO is the point of including the card and having a block in the first place. I found very few people visited our website even though everyone uses the internet.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I posted the rate, and I’m very glad I did. The night before the wedding wasn’t included on the room block when people called the 800 number- luckily Future Mother-In-Law found out when she booked, and I was able to alert people to call the hotel directly.
The one downside is that the price I listed doesn’t include tax or parking, so it adds up- looking back, I probably should have listed non-inclusive of tax and parking.
Post # 15
BOSTONGIRL 27 and anyone else wondering…
When it comes to Etiquette…
It is the mentioning of money that is considered crass. Period.
This is because in “olden times” (lets say the Gilded Age in America) when one was a Guest, then ALL EXPENSES for the visit were paid for by the Host (transport to the location … train / steamer / ocean liner – and carriage transfers – accommodations – food – entertainment – sometimes even appropriate clothing etc) No cost was too great to put out for one’s guest.
This is partially where the whole idea of “not inconveniencing” your guests comes from in regards to Etiquette
Ok, so not 100% practical in this day and age… and well, lets face it none of us have the limitless pockets of the Rockefellers, Vanderbilts, or the Astors.
Technically all you need to give your Guests is info on WHEN & WHERE the Wedding Ceremony is, and WHEN & WHERE the Reception is (name of venues, and address)
They are supposed to be smart enough to ask the rest (Directions – WHAT the couple might like for a Gift – WHERE to stay etc)
Modern Etiquette is certainly changing… but some basic concepts are the same… no mention of money, and less info rather than more. Having a website addy, is a nice way around a lot of these “modern” wedding issues, because one can list other info in a spot where the Guest can go looking for it… thereby making the whole process regarded as ok
Etiquette is complicated, but when you have an idea of its evoloution thru history, then the rules make a lot more sense