(Closed) according to the Knot, every single wedding I’ve been to has been “trashy”

posted 11 years ago in Music
Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am Polish Catholic marrying a Polish Catholic in Western PA, so needless to say, we will be having a dollar dance.  I have seen different variations of the dollar dance, but how we do it is that whoever wants to dance pays a dollar (or whatever they want), get a shot (of either schanapps or whiskey, poured by one of the wedding attendants or the bartender) on the dance floor, and then dance with either the bride or the groom.  Part of the fun also is folding up the money into tiny little shapes that make it a challenge for the bride and groom to unfold.

I definitely admit it sounds kind of tacky; BUT when everyone knows what it is, expects it, and participates, I don’t think its a big deal.  It is more odd to not have one in my area.

Post # 33
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am from Central Pennsylvania (the wonderful and unique coal region) and I will be having a family style dinner (where there is a bowl of green beans and plates of meat passed around the table).  I am having 300 guests and I think it adds a family feel to the reception.  And the bonus side is that people don’t have to indicated their choice on the RSVP months ahead of time, that day they get to choose what they want or even get both meats.  More formal wedding I have been to have always been plated.  

I will definitely be chicken dancing and doing the hokey pokey!  I can also say that I will also be doing the Polka at least once.   Also, I will spend hours unfolding money from the dollar dance.  Often in my family people contribute much more than a dollar to the dollar dance, they figure it in as part of their wedding gift although there is no way of telling who put in what amount of money.  The idea behind paying money for a dance with the bride/groom is two fold.  1.  It gets you a few moments alone with the bride/groom to have a one on one conversation. 2. The cash is for the couple to use on their honeymoon.  When dollar dancing with people everyone will smell like peach schnapps or whiskey because they have the choice of a pack of gum or a shot when they pay for the dance.  There is something to be said about tradition.  I don’t think it’s tacky, a little silly but fun.  

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MsMoxieMonkey – love dominic the donkey! But I can see why you wouldnt want it played at your wedding!!

I had never even heard of the dollar dance until I found WB and while I couldnt imagine doing it I wouldnt care if someone else did!!

I have been to several buffet weddings and several sit downs – buffets are NOT trashy – we were originally going to do buffet but actually sit down was cheaper!

I dont think not having a seating chart is tacky its just a personal preference!

Post # 35
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was on theknot yesterday and was reading an article about their “great” ideas to make your wedding the best. They were discussing adding things like a late night snack, fireworks or a surprise show of some sort for your guests. It all sounded like great ideas, but not fair to say that those make a wedding special because not everyone has money for all of that extra stuff. I am serving my guests a  very nice dinner, and I don’t have extra funds for a late night snack!

I also agree that dollar dances and things like that are regional. FI’s extended family is from Michigan and I know that they consider dollar dances the norm. With a group of people who are used to dollar dances they really aren’t tacky, people are just having fun!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

All but maybe 2 of the weddings I’ve been to in my life have included EVERY SINGLE ONE of those things. Alot of them I plan to include in my wedding. I agree with it being a midwest thing so I guess that’s why I feel it’s the norm.

Post # 37
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958 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not neccesarily regional.  I am also in the Midwest and I have only been to one wedding with dollar dances and buffets.  To each, there own …

Post # 38
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958 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re doing a late night snack!  It’s going to cost us $40 to serve soft pretzels from Gus’s (St Louis thing).

Post # 39
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Mermaid1082: That’s awesome! I really would love to do a late night snack, but it’ll be just one more financial expense for us.

I don’t have a problem with all of the extra fun details that people do, I really like them, actually! I have a problem with the wedding industry tying to tell brides that they need to have all of these extras and expensive things.

Post # 40
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Go dominic! but yep dont want that played at my wedding lol

I dont have a seating chart, so dont feel left out. but thats cause im having a cocktail wedding, maybe thats trashy?? lol.

Carefactor… zero. Our wedding, we get to do what we want! Im not going to let a board stop me. Meanwhile there probably thinking on the other side.. gee wish we had a buffet dinner, dollar dance and played the hokeypokey. Just too scared to admit it because it might actually be fun! Ignore them!!

Post # 42
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jaylii9:Wouldn’t surprise me. The more “unique” the wedding, the more vendors and money you have to put into it. The knot makes all their money off vendors, and they need to keep them happy.

Dollar dances are cultural things, so I’m actually surprised it’s considered “trashy” by the knot. Here, especially if Philippino, you BETTER have a dollar dance, in fact, to the families, it’s the highlight of the night judging by how excited and happy people are! 

 

Post # 43
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ahhh the regional differences.  I’m from the midwest as well and totally agree — those are traditional and expected at weddings in this part of the country!  We’ll be doing the dollar dance and having a buffet, too!  We’re passing on the chicken dance and hokey pokey though.  =D  

There’s good reason that we’re all bee instead of knotties!

Post # 44
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281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

omg!  i loved the knot but actually never came across anything saying it was trashy to do any of that…. i would never consider any of it trashy!  i would think it’s a little more considerate to have a seating chart, but dollar dances?  buffets?  who cares??  i’ve seen a couple dollar dances and a million buffets, whats the big deal?  we’ve been to a couple weddings without seating charts and you always end up separated from your friends and sitting with the brides old aunt patty or something, you know?  no good.

Post # 45
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374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think if its a tradition in your family who gives a rats ass if you do it. My family is more important than what some outsider (THE KNOT) thinks is tacky. I personally did not want to do the dollar dance at my wedding out of being embarrassed to dance which I am not the best at and had said no but was convinced by my husband and his family to do so. Actually it ended up just happening at my wedding and I had no choice LOL It is a big tradition in my husbands Latin heritage to do so. His parents brought the pins and the guest including my family had a blast with it.

 

To each his own but for someone to dis it is ridiculous. I had a buffet so what? MY GUEST LOVED IT! They got to eat as much as they wanted!! I had a beautiful wedding and people said it was the best they had been too. That is satisfying enough for me because they are what I am concerned with not snobby stick up the butt women at the knot. I am on it too but stay clear from the boards. I like the pictures 🙂

 

Post # 46
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709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am from Texas and I am latina and we  <3 the dolla (without the R) dance! I dont know if I will be having it at my wedding (time issues) but I would its fun and you get to Dance with everyone.

Buffet line-A MUST! I don’t want a sit down dinner because I dont want them to serve a 5 year old an adult plate. Most of the kids share with their parents (if we even have kids at the wedding)

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