(Closed) according to the Knot, every single wedding I’ve been to has been “trashy”

posted 11 years ago in Music
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@maemejo: Cos with the hokey pokey, that’s what;s it’s all about! Coal region eh? Schuyll County by chance?

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Although I have not seen it lately, I have been to a few weddings where the bride and groom are “kidnapped” and the guests must “pay” to get them back. But I haven’t seen it in recent years. Very strange.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

my wedding will have all of those things! UH except the hokey pokey! I live in Louisiana and i’ve never been to a wedding without the dollar dance. haha Who cares what the knot thinks.. boo on them!

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Moxie- LMFAO!!!!!!!!!  Oh my gosh, you’re joking me!!  Dominic the Italian Christmas Donkey??!   That is a riot.   🙂  I heart crazy Italians though….haha!

I’m from Southern CA, and people still do dollar dances here….I don’t think we will do one, because we’re already basically asking for money as gifts (via honeyfund)….so to not ask, but kinda ask for more money at the reception is kinda…ehhh….to me.  Lol

Post # 51
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@bluespurrs:  Very close!  Northumberland

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t understand why people allow anonymous trolls whom they will never interact with in person to ruin their fun. They have their opinions (which is all they are) but they don’t understand or care about the proper time and place to not say anything if you can’t say anything nice or civil. Do what you want (that isn’t a breach of etiquette that makes others uncomfortable) and don’t pay any attention to them because they actually want you to get upset over their comments.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@abbyful: yeah – pinning the money is the more traditional way, but most brides agree with you about pins in the dress~

I’ve also seen a variation where the dollar buys you a shot and a dance with the bride or groom (both times it was at a wedding that served mixed drinks & beer, but no shots other than for the dollar dance). 

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

When my younger sister and I (I’m the baby, but she’s the next oldest) talk about my wedding, her mom is always trying to push some tradition on me. We both say “I do what I want!” (Eric Cartman style, cause we’re classy like that.)

Post # 55
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t know if I’ll be doing a dollar dance or not – I’m filipino and my fiance is of german ancestry but have been here for generations. But it is a cultural/regional thing. If I do the dance, I’ll probably have whoever is the dj make some sort of announcement to explain what we’re doing to the non-filipinos at the reception.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’d never heard of the dollar dance until I read about it on WB and around that time my husband’s parents told me about doing it at their wedding. My Mother-In-Law is Polish, so it’s a cultural thing for their family, and they surprised us with the dollar dance in the middle of our reception. I would never have planned one, because I’m not familiar with the tradition and find it off-putting, but in the middle of the joy and controlled chaos of the party, it was actually a lot of fun. People paid to dance with both me and my husband and got pretty into it. I was surprised both by how much fun people had with it and by how much money we raked in. In general, I’d conclude that you fret a lot less about everything when it’s actually happening at the wedding than you do when you’re planning it.

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it is all silly.  These rules of you can’t do this, and you can’t do that.  I have been to one wedding with a dollar dance (bride and groom) and thought it was wonderful.  I love the chicken dance and have been to few weddings without it.  When I was young and snobby I thought the sit down, multi-course meal was the way to go, and buffets were weird.  Now that I am a grown up and value money and other people’s idea’s I say do what you like.  Who is anyone to say what is tacky.  While fireworks would be awesome afterwards, lets face it, most people are not going to have the money for it.  Sounds like the knot is not for me.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Glad to see there are some couples who will be doing the dollar dance. I personally do not want it, but it’s tradition in FI’s family. To each their own 🙂

Post # 59
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Busy bee

In Texas we have $5-$20 and above dances! Guess we are SUPER trashy! lol

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s only trashy if it hurts people’s feelings or offends them. If everyone is expecting the dollar dance, how can it be true? That said, in my family it would be mildly offensive, so we won’t risk it. 🙂

Post # 61
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I remember some lesson from high school about diversity, and how an ideal society should be a mosaic (a variety of citizens, ideas, cultures, etc) and not a melting pot (everyone doing the same thing…) I feel the same should be said for weddings. They are one of the few events in the world that are common to (nearly) every region of the world, so obviously there is going to be a massive amount of diversity from wedding to wedding.

The problem with wedding websites (this one included) is that certain contributors are only familiar with their own upbringing, experience, region, culture, and comfort level, and thus they believe anything outside this “comfort bubble” is wrong, strange, tacky, or weird. There have definitely been certain things I have personally read about that seem totally foreign to me from the onset, but I suppose I am open-minded enough to realize they are upbringing/regional/cultural things, and hey – maybe stuff I do seems weird to someone too.

I had a large buffet at my wedding due to the high number of picky eaters, allergies and diets, and you know what? Everyone loved it because there truly was something for everyone, and it also saved us a ton of headache trying to decide on 2 or 3 of the most “people pleasing” plated options. There was tons of options and variety (3 meat choices, 8 hot sides, 6 cold sides) Maybe it didn’t work for “everyone else”, but it worked for us, and no one at my wedding would ever dub it “tacky”!

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