(Closed) according to the Knot, every single wedding I’ve been to has been “trashy”

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Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Miss Fish: I want to come to your wedding. Or any wedding from where you’re from 🙂 lol

Post # 78
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I live in the midwest and just asked Fiance if we were going to do a dollar dance.  He said he had never heard of it and I described the bride and groom dancing with guests for money.  

He then said, “What, is that like a poor person thing to do?”

Mean, but he’s clueless. LOL.  I’ve personally never been to a wedding where it was done myself, but I don’t think it’s for poor people.

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss Fish: The NY Times had an article on the cookie tables sometime in the last year or so (well, the Pittsburgh version, but I’m assuming it’s the same thing); I would totally love to go to a wedding with one!

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

At my wedding we had a dollar dance. I did the chicken dance with my friends and my family. We had a buffet and for drinks we had beer, wine, and margaritas. It didn’t seem trashy to me, but maybe that’s because my wedding was quite similar to all of the weddings I’ve been to.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Also, no seating chart. I’ve never been to a wedding with a seating chart. When I started reading blogs I wondered why everyone had numbers on their tables? Wha? Of course, now I appreciate it, but, it must be regional, because when I suggested it my roommate was like “wait, you’re going to tell people where to sit?”

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@maureen9004: and

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@floridabride12: Heck yeah! I guess you could kind of compare it to a prom in the way that everyone gets really dressed up but then boogies down! It’s a big old party, just a really fancy one, where no one is happy until they’ve danced to the electric slide.

And around here, the dollar dance isn’t really seen as the bride and groom asking for money. It’s a cultural tradition that is expected to be a part of the evening, where family and friends take pride in congratulating the newlyweds with gifts and good fortune. *shrugs* People can think of it as trashy all they want, but my wedding is gonna be a blast with or without their negativity!

 

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@Frog E.: Pittsburgh and Youngstown traditions are typically very similar due to the fact that they are so close to one another and both were major cities in the steel industry. So YES, it’s the same thing and it’s just about the best idea that anyone ever had. Lots of friends and family members get together the week leading up to the wedding and just BAKE lol. Future Mother-In-Law and her 4 sisters are already talking about how much baking they’re going to do, and Maid/Matron of Honor is working on new recepies so that everything is perfected come wedding time lol! It’s a labor of love 🙂

 

Post # 83
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have stopped posting on the Knot because everytime I do someone jumps down my throat about how my wedding is trashy.

Post # 84
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Miss Fish: Ahh, Pittsburgh weddings and the cookie tables. How I love the cookie tables. My mother and cousins are already talking about what cookies to make a year from now! 

I’ve only been to two weddings without a dollar dance. I thought it was normal! Pay $1, take a shot, dance with the bride or groom. There isn’t a wedding bible telling us all that all of our weddings have to be the same!

Post # 85
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I loved the dollar dance when I was a kid. It gave me a chance to go dance with the groom which I thought was and actual prince! haha. But it’s common up in Wisconsin especially where my families are from (polish catholic area). I like to think of it as giving them a tip for such a nice party haha JUST KIDDING.  It’s supposed to help the bride and groom set up their home traditionally. I don’t find it tacky to stick to traditions! I would be doing one, but am afraid of being rude since it’s considered a renewal. And I will not be doing a seating chart because I don’t want to deal with that stress, but I have to have a sit down dinner. Since it’s a restaraunt and a buffet will make it to crowded.

Post # 86
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What is the dollar dance?

Post # 87
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@sbharkness83: It’s a dance where guests at a wedding will give money to the bride and/or groom to dance with them. It’s a polish tradition to help the couple set up their home after the wedding. I know other cultures do it but I’m familiar with the polish one. It is comon in the midwest.

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am suprised that I have never heard of this. Baltimore has a very high Polish population, but then again I am not polish nor are any of my friends so that might explain my lack of knowledge on that one.

Post # 89
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

In my family (Italian) we have a kids’ dance, which is similar to a dollar dance, but kids run around and grab all the money people toss onto the dance floor (usually more coins than dollar bills) while the B & G dance. I think it’s adorable! For the record, I LOVE buffets, and we will be having one. (I feel like people actually get full, as opposed to sit-down dinners. 

Post # 90
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The dollar dance is MANDATORY where I’m from. I’ve never been to a sit-down dinner reception. I’ve definitely participated in my share of line-dancing at weddings. And as far as alcohol goes, my family would be perfectly ok if we just had a huge keg sitting in the middle of the dance floor. I definitely wouldn’t consider my family to be trashy or anything either. People can have money and have some cheesey fun!

Post # 91
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow…. I can tell you one thing, I never knew that the dollar dance was considered “trashy” by some until reading this. So sad! EVERY wedding I’ve been to has had one! I think they’re fun 🙂 Plus, its a great way to get 1-on-1 time with the bride/groom at a super hectic wedding.

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