Post # 1
Until joining this site I have never heard of the BMs having jewelry requirements. Shoes yes, anything else sounded weird to me.Im in a friends wedding, and she said to wear whatever we want, jewelry wise, but since the colors are black/white/red, to wear silver jewelry not gold.
Apparently it is the norm to require a certain necklace or bracelet alongside the dress and shoes?
Post # 3
I requested that all of my girls wear the same color shoes (They have different colored dresses, I just thought it would kind of tie things together). I don’t really care what they wear jewelry-wise though.
Post # 4
whatever the bride or bridezilla says goes honey! end of story! lol
Post # 5
I’ve only ever heard of this if the bride was gifting the jewelry. Is that what you’re talking about?
Post # 6
This doesn’t seem too over the top for me. Silver it is!
Post # 7
In my experience, usually if a bride wants very specific, matching jewelry, she gives it to the bridesmaids as their gift at the rehearsal dinner …?
I don’t think that requesting silver and not gold, or vice-versa, is too out of line, though. She still left the actual jewelry up to you, right?
Post # 8
I gave my bridesmaids similar accessory guidelines (and have been given them as a bridesmaid).
At my wedding the girls wore long black strapless dresses, and I gave them the guideline to wear white metal earrings of any style. One wore studs, the other 3 wore chandelier earrings. I had also instructed them not to wear a watch/necklace, or bracelet, and to wear black shoes of their choice.
Anything super specific (these exact shoes, jewelry, etc.), I agree, should be gifted by the bride!
Post # 9
I think most of the time if there is a “requirement” for jewelry to be the same, the bride gives these as her gift to her BMs. Obviously that isn’t always the case, but I’ve never heard it not done that way.
Post # 10
At least she’s not asking you to buy something new!
Post # 11
I’ve heard of this, a lot, but didn’t require it myself. I bought each Bridesmaid or Best Man a bracelet that they each wore. Necklaces and earrings were up to them. I also bought their shoes, so they all matched. Their dresses were same color, different style.
Post # 12
When I was in my SILs wedding, we were told to wear black shoes and gold jewelry. My sister and I had just sold all of our gold at one of thowe “sell your gold” parties, so that was funny timing.
Post # 13
@AlwaysSunny: No, if it was a gift that would make sense.But Ive seen threads where Bees post pics of a bracelet or something they specifically want the BMs to wear and buy on their own. Shoes I get, thats almost alwas part of the dress picking deal. But jewelry was news to me.
@Mars62312: Nah, she wouldnt. All of us BMs are college students like her, she knows were on a budget. she just said please no yellow gold cause it would clash. Which is fine with me, cause I hate yellow gold!
Post # 14
I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend, and she went crazy with the specifics! She made us all have our hair a certain way, a specific bracelet and earrings, the same exact dress, the same exact shoes (she didn’t know where to get them btw she just said she wanted this kind lol). I do have to cut her some slack because she was pregnant at the time and way hormonal, BUT it just seems like a lot of added stress to make sure all the BMs are matchy matchy (there were 8 of us). On the plus side, though, I now know a general idea of what I’m doing and not doing at my wedding haha.
Post # 15
I bought my girls necklaces and earrings to wear the day of and keep as part of their gift. I didn’t demand that they buy their own.
Post # 16
I’ll be buying the jewelery for my girls. I don’t think it’s that crazy to ask you to wear silver instead of gold or vice versa.