(Closed) Acknowledging deceased in programs

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9282 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ZChick17:  i am putting my grandmother and father, Fiance is putting his father.

i was very close with my grandmother and father, and knew them for almost 30 years.


you could list parents (and grandparents) and then say “and everyone else who couldn’t be with us today.”


Post # 4
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We just did this:

The flowers at the altar have been placed in memory of the Bride and Groom’s grandparents and loved ones who are unable to attend today, but whose love and support are ever-present with us.

Post # 5
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think it could be hurtful for his parents and other family to exclude them. I’d either include them by name or just a sentiment without any names. 

Post # 7
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@ZChick17:  that’s good, she’ll know what’s best probably. You’re right to ask, some people wouldn’t 

Post # 8
9950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Ok traditionally when it comes to Wedding Etiquette, the MOST HONOURED GUESTS at a Wedding are:

The Brides Parents – The Grooms Parents – Grand Parents – and God Parents.

So if there is anyone that should be “remembered” it would be these folks… no point in carrying out further along the branches of the Family Tree unless it was a “Special Aunt or Uncle”… or say a Cousin who died young and tragically.

Whether you choose to include All the Grand Parents for example, or just the ones you actually knew is up to you, and your Families… this is an issue I’d certainly be talking over with your Parents on both sides.

Hope this helps,


Post # 10
2080 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@ZChick17:  I ran into this issue, as well. I was going to acknowledge my mother on the back of the program but my husband raised the issue of acknowledging everyone else, as well. That would include all his grandparents, and both my grandfathers. There was also a question about a memorial candle or photo. Instead of risk leaving anyone out, I didn’t do it all. However, I did put my bouquet on my mothers grave after the wedding.

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