Post # 1
Hi Bees, I am probably overthinking this as usual…
Did anyone receive registry gifts in advance from people who could not attend the wedding?
We have received a few, and to me it feels weird not to acknowledge them quickly, before the wedding, especially since I won’t be writing anything along the lines of “thank you for coming, you made our day so special” etc. Is it fine to do this on a store-bought Thank You card that doesn’t coordinate with the invitations they received? My fiancé and I have not designed/printed up our “official” wedding Thank You cards yet (coordinating with the invitation suite), and given our massive pre-wedding to-do lists, weren’t planning to tackle this until after the honeymoon.
With some closer ties, I sent an email/text right away just so they knew we received/love the gift, and with that “placeholder” I feel comfortable waiting until after the wedding to mail them a physical card. But in the case of more distant ties where there isn’t really a text/email relationship (e.g. some friends of my parents), I’m not sure if it’s better etiquette-wise to send them any Thank You card right away or if there’s any reason to wait until the “real” Thank You cards are ready.
Post # 2
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Send the thank you card as soon as you get the gift whether they still come or not.
Then after the honeymoon, you can decide to send them a “designed” one or not with the others.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY
Send a thank you note on any stationary you have. It doesn’t have to cooridnate with anything.
Post # 4
AvaG: I would send a thoughtful thank you note as soon as possible on any stationery that you have. It’s much more important for these people to know that you appreciate their gifts and thoughtfulness and well-wishes in a timely manner than it is for the thank you cards to coordinate with the invites.
Post # 5
We already had the thank you cards before the wedding since we didn’t use apic of us, but as soon as we received a gift, we sent a thank you. It was great becuase I wasn’t stressing over a ton of thank you’s to write all at once. I got 20-30 out of the way right away.
Post # 6
MrsTtoB: LAB: MissMarple: megz06: Thanks, ladies. You’re all pretty much confirming what my gut said too. 🙂
Post # 7
I usually order and send off the registry, if that person/their parents gave a boxed gift to my daughters, or send a check, if mine received the same, as soon as I receive the invitation. If it’s a monetary gift, I figure it would help the couple out, with their expenses.
I did this in early April, when I received an invitation, to a mid-July wedding. I saw the couple the end of August, and they apologized for not sending a thank you, but they were “waiting for photos.”
It’s now 5 months since I ordered the gift. I know it was received, because I got a confirmation e-mail, but I am re-thinking my philosophy.
We had a big blow-out this year, concerning the lack of courtesy, in my husband’s family. You can never do some things too early.
Post # 8
I’m in a similar situation where one guest won’t be able to make the wedding (in Jan) so bought a gift off our registry. While I can see what was bought we won’t actually receive it until after the wedding in a bulk delivery. Send a card now or later once received?