(Closed) Acknowledging Future Step-Children

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

A couple of things – first of all, congrats!  And so you know where I’m coming from, I’m a mom and getting married in two months.  

I think you could promise to listen to them and respect them (which is huge for kids that age), to have an open heart and a kind ear.  To work with their father to provide them a warm, loving home…

Anything more than that might be overkill given that you say you don’t have as much of a relationship with them yet.  Or you could simply do the sand ceremony and leave it at that.  Kids that age sometimes aren’t comfortable being the center of attention.

Good luck!

Post # 5
1205 posts
Bumble bee

@Peyton – I love your idea of the kindear and open heart. 

We are doing the same thing – My Fiance will be says some short, sweet vows to my children who will be 8 & 9 at the time…

I think you can get away with saying ‘LOVE’ if you say that you will love them, respect them and so on without getting too mushy.

If you want a token gift – there is a special “family medallion”  that has wonderful meaning and could be a keepsake.

Fiance and I haven’t hashed out the details of our ceremony yet – and we do want him to present the kids with something – we’re just not sure what yet.

THIS website has great ideas about including children – even if it is not your 2nd wedding.

I weanted to add that while a sentimental gift may be too much for them now, I believe it will be something they’ll appreciate later.

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