Post # 1
I am embarassed to say it, but I have acne, really bad acne.Â Up until five months ago it was mostly on my face, but recently it has spread to my shoulders, back, chest and neck.Â Needless to say, it is making me very self conscious.Â My dermotologist said the acne may be intensifying due to the stress of finishing up grad school and planning a wedding at the same time, or it could just be hormonal.Â Â He has put me on a bunch of treatments, but we’re not sure what, if anything, will work.
So here is my problem, I have already purchased my wedding gown, a strapless gown which will leave all of my really badly affected areas exposed!Â It is an ML ivory lace gown and I am having a difficult time finding a bolero, shrug or anything really that I can wear to to cover up my back and shoulders.Â Most of the bolero’s are lace (which would clash, or satin which just wouldn’t go with the dress).Â Does anyone have any ideas for me?Â Shopping advice?Â Skincare advice?Â Perhaps links to shops that sell wedding gown jackets and such?Â I can live with my acne, but the thought of walking down the aisle with such bad skin exposed is really upsetting to me.Â Â Thank you!
Post # 3
I used to have acne on my face, and I went to the dermatologist. I had tried a few things, but it didn’t work. Finally, I was prescribed Duac and Tazorac. They were both ointments, one for day and one for night. Helped A LOT! No more acne. I also used a very mild cleansing soap. Something like Eucerin or Aveeno? I’m not sure if this will work for you, but maybe it’s something you can talk to the dermatologist about. There is also a soap that is made of Papaya. I find it at the asian markets. Works wonders on my skin and is very inexpensive.
Post # 4
I swear by proactiv. I love how my skin looks with it, worth every penny.
Post # 5
Another vote for Proactiv here. The one TV product that actually works. Both my husband and I have used it in the past to clear up acne that nothing else worked for.
Post # 6
If you have enough time, and even want to, I’m a former Accutane user (dermatologist prescribed med). It was harsh, really really harsh, and I had to take it for 8 months when the average is 4 months . . . but it worked. And I couldn’t be happier about it. As hard as it was, I would do it again.
Post # 7
I don’t know what the weather will be where you are, but have you considered a knit shawl in something lightweight/airy? Crocheted?
One example is here:
Post # 8
alibride, some bolero & shrug designs are fairly simple in shape. You might consider asking around family & friends to see if you have a seamstress who would be willing to take on the project. That way you can find a fabric that will definitely work with your gown. And there are patterns out there, they just won’t be marketed for wedding dresses (and they might be paired with dresses that look more out-of-fashion)If you do go that route, I suppose it would also be important to have it be with someone who you can count on to do it well…
Post # 9
How far out is your wedding? I also had pretty bad acne for years and FINALLY went to a dermatologist. I don’t know why I didn’t do it like 8 years prior, it would have saved me a lot of scarring, physical and emotional, and money in failed remedies. The doctor put me on a medication that is like Accutane called Amnisteem. I think I was on it for about 6 months. It was kind of hard (monthly visits to the doctor, lab work, and remembering to take the pills every day), but COMPLETELY worth it. I have not had a zit since. You sound like a good candidate for it. Really you should be asking your dermatologist this advice not a message board. (Except for the cover-ups part).
Post # 10
I second Accutane— you’ll need At least 4 months and preferably Six….it’s super harsh, your face will basically dry, crack, peel, possibly bleed…it will get WAY worse before it gets better but after that…like a baby’s butt. It’s worth all the hassle. I’ve heard good things about proactiv but if have to keep using it or your face reverts back.
Post # 11
Hi. You didn’t say how far away the wedding is, but let me tell you. I have to agree with the others that say try ProActive. I SWEAR it will help and help fast for your face. Within a couple of days. As for the problems you’re experiencing with your back, they have a "Deep Cleansing Wash" it’s got a pump on it and it’s kinda like a body scrub/wash and that will clear up your back.
I’m saying this because like you, yes, no one wants to say they have an acne problem. And no one ever really knew I had one, not even the Fiance and we live together. Well, he didn’t know until yesterday. I keep all of those things "hidden" not really "hidden" but it’s like you know, your girly stuff you don’t want to leave out. I left the stuff in the shower the other day and he came out asking "when did you get this??" Right now my face looks like I have a map to volcano’s soon to errupt on it. I lost my job and have been out of work for a little over a month and can’t find one anywhere, and we’re in the process of buying a house, along with the holidays and planning a wedding. Anyhow, the stress has made my face break out something awful, and my shoulder area as well. I started using the ProActive again two days ago (I don’t use it everyday unless I’m having a breakout problem) and already I’m getting better and Thank God… not any worse.
Try it. I swear it will help.
Post # 12
I’ve had acne problems FOREVER… Proactiv didn’t work for me. Acutane was also miserable for me. my skin got VERY dry and peeled and was really nasty. if you go on it, take a low dose (it also causes depression!) Have you tried oral antibiotics? they take a while to kick in but usually work. I use benzclin(topical, i don’t like the idea of oral but will take them about 6 months before the wedding) and a mild wash and it seems to help. do you get facials?
Post # 13
proactive definitely worked, but like tallbride’s, it also left my skin very dry and peeled. i’ve been using jan marini bioglycolic products from skinstore.com for the last couple of years and i’ve got lots of complements on my skin since. i definitely recommend it! 🙂
Post # 14
Thank you all for the great advice.Â I’m definitely going to be working with my dermotologist to try and figure out the appropriate meds.Â I used proactive for about 2 years and I think I became immune to it.Â More than anything I’d like to be prepared with some sort of cover up for the day of, just in case… but its a late summer wedding (still 9 months away) so it needs to be lightwieght.Â Brandalynn- I think I will look into having someone make one for me… great idea! Thank you!
Post # 15
I’ll go against the grain and say Proactive didn’t work for me. I don’t have extreme acne, just enough to get on my nerves. But I do have sensitive skin. When I tried Proactive, it ended up burning my skin. Literally, I had burn marks left on my skin. Needless to say, I quit using it.
Post # 16
I third Accutane. I went on it after trying many different prescriptions and I have been blemish (and scar )free since. It is hard on you, and you CANNOT get pregnant (unless you want babies with multiple limbs), but it was the only thing that worked for me. I went and still go to the best dermatologist in Western Canada (ie, highest paid professional in the city of any profession -I’m telling you this because I respect his opinion), and he was emphatic on not using over the counter remedies or Proactiv, which are basically just a bunch of temporary fixes (like toothpaste – it’ll clear up a zit, but it’s not a long term solution). Talk to your derm about Accutane, and see if a short course would be right for you. (thus ends my infomercial, sorry 🙂