Post # 1
I moved across the country to be with the man I’m going to marry. After he proposed, I told my family and friends we’re getting married here. My family who has very limited funding said they would be there.
My brother who doesn’t have any financial worry, won’t answer my phone calls, texts, or emails. He has only told my mom he didn’t know if he would come or not. Now, understand before I was engaged, we talked 24/7. I think he’s hurt that I’m getting married before him when he’s been engaged for awhile now.
My one best friend (13yrs of bff-ness) says she can’t afford it. And my other best friend says he can’t get off work, but I think it’s just a lie. I know what he does for work and he’s always been able to get any days off he wanted.
I get that it takes an amount of money to come where we’re at, but I told everyone that whoever did come didn’t have to worry about hotel, food, or any costs when here.
Should I be upset and angry with them because I feel like they honestly just don’t want to come? Or am I not being understanding?
Post # 4
@lmmd: It is understandable to be hurt when people that are important to you can’t make it. But try to be understanding to them also. Traveling across the country is expensive and they would have to take many days off just to travel.
Post # 5
I agree with PP. Unfortunately sometimes dates don’t work with work schedules (especially if less than a year’s notice), money might be tight despite lifestyle appearances (my Fiance and I live comfortably, but I don’t know we could save for a trip across country next year considering we have other financial goals that we are almost reaching), and it is sometimes difficult to travel, leaving pets, spouses or children behind. I think this is just part of having a wedding that is out of the area. If you have the money available, perhaps you can offer to subsidize some travel expenses beyond hotel, food, etc for those you NEED to have there.
Post # 6
The more travel involved the harder it is going to be for your family and friends to make it, due to money, vacation time, or other things that may be going on in their lives. Just try to be understanding and know that your family and friends that can’t make it love you.