(Closed) Acting Spoiled or Valid Feelings?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh honey! Honestly I’ve had the same feelings. A few of my friends are genuenly (that word is probably spelt wrong!lol) excited. But other friends are acting like I’m the weird one. I hate to say it but I honestly think its just jealousy. You really find out who good people are when they have to be happy for someone else. At my shower no one got me gifts! Everyone just stuck a check in an envolope. Which yes is nice but is something that you can do on the way to the party and takes no effort.

  I am SO thankful for my Fiance and the ones who ARE supportive. They will be the ones that make the day magical. Just remember that YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON! And anyone who belongs in your life will stay! Good luck girlie!

Post # 4
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Awww I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. I do have to say wow you are an amazing friend to put off your wedding for another friend. My fiancé’s best friend saw that we got engaged and he’s very competitive so he of course proposed after only dating 3 months and picked a wedding date a month before ours (seems on purpose!)

Maybe you could get the girl’s together or talk to them one by one to express your feelings of not being included. They might assume you are busy with everything and with time ticking every waking moment of yours is consumed with wedding details. I don’t want you to look at your day and be sad that it wasn’t everything you dreamed of and more. Don’t let them get you down!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh, I’m sorry all this is happening! Weddings can definitely bring out the worst in people. And that WAS VERY nice of you to push back your wedding date for your friend.. wow!

I so hear you about all the issues you are going through. We are getting a ton of declines from people who were originally so excited to come, it’s so strange. Thank god we didnt’ book a bigger ballroom!! And honestly we are being left out of couple nights as well. I don’t think it’s ever been a situation where only we were left off the list, but it’s just strange that it keeps happening.

All I can say to Fiance (b/c he’s really hurt) is that people change when they get older and more ingrained into a certain lifestyle and we can’t be upset by it. People are adults and will invite who they want to nights out and if we aren’t included then we probably shouldn’t have gone in the 1st place. And if they decline our invitations to the wedding or to dinner we can’t be mad about it, but we can respect their decision adn possibly the fact that we aren’t as close as we had thought.

Post # 6
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way. It sounds like you gave yourself a lengthy engagement. I did the same for the same reasons as you. I had two friends getting married back-to-back and didnt want to interfere. I found that after our big announcement, attention slowly diminished. But not because they didn’t care but because it was old news and we had some time before we had to do anything related to the wedding. Perhaps this happened in your case too to some extent.

Regarding your friends excluding you from things, I would sit down with the one you feel most comfortable talking to and open up about how you’ve been feeling. Maybe she can offer some insight and maybe after talking things out, your friends will get excited again.

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