Post # 1
I’ve been contemplating asking this question for awhile because it may be somewhat controversial but it seems like I’m coming across more and more Bee’s whose weddings have come and gone and they don’t post pictures yet are still very active here on the boards.
In a lot of cases they even stated that they “Can’t wait to post pictures!” then they never do.
Am I the only one that’s noticed this? Is this rude of me to pry? If so I apologize ahead of time.
There was one Bee in particular that was getting married the same month as me and she was posting like a mad woman as to the great details of her big day, then nothing. I was so excited for her! I even sent her a very friendly private message asking her how everything went. I got a little worried. I never heard from her but she did get married because she had all kinds of post-wedding topics. I just let it go.
More specifically I would really like to hear from anyone here who doesn’t post pictures. I know sometimes it’s time consuming but it takes two seconds to post a link (okay that sounded preachy). I guess I’m greedy. I love looking at wedding pictures here. Especially since you get to follow the bride through all of her post-wedding stuff months and sometimes years in advance. I hope I’m still around when the 2011/2012 brides get married to see thier pics.
To me the wedding photo’s are the icing on the cake.
Trust me I’ve done the legg work (aka spying) and if I see that a Bee’s wedding was weeks and/or months ago I’ll check to see if I missed a re-cap, or a link to a blog or photographers site, but a lot of times I get nadda. I’ll even see that on their last thread somebody will ask for photo’s but more times than not they get ignored.
A million “Thank You’s” for reading this and even more thank you’s to all of you Beautiful Bee’s that do post your wedding photo’s. They bring such joy!
Post # 3
I tend to agree if someone has gone on-and-on about all these things and promised to post pics I’m kind of curious, it’s different if they’ve never promised to post pics (as some people prefer to remain anonymous).
However it could be that they haven’t gotten pics from their photographer yet. Chances are the bride and groom are not taking a lot of pics so they’re having to rely on family members/photogs to actually send them pics.
I’m sure you’ve seen some horror stories about photogs that never deliever. I’d say cut them some slack, but of course we all love pictures!
Post # 4
I’m pretty active and I haven’t posted pics yet…I believe at one point I even said “I can’t wait!” when the recap board came up but still haven’t done it yet…idk, I just didn’t think it was that big of a deal…
Post # 5
I agree that some might be because they are waiting for pictures and maybe they forget to post them after that. Other people never want to post pictures on here for privacy reasons. I never posted a ton of pictures from my wedidng because I was lazy lol.
Post # 6
We just met with our most-likely wedding photographer this week, and I told her how important it was for us to have digital copies of the photos. She said that the printed album would take about a month I believe, but the digital copies would take a year to get back to us. Maybe she has to edit more photos for the digital version or she wants to make some profit from prints? Not sure, but anyway that may be the issue with some people.
I also love seeing the wedding photos, but if people aren’t comfortable with it because of privacy, I get it. This is a pretty active board with a lot of people! Maybe their family or fiance isn’t comfortable with it being posted, etc.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Orange County Performing Arts Center
Hi Halloween! It’s so nice to see such an active member of the Hive! I agree with you! I love seeing recaps and can’t wait to see how everything went especially if you’ve been following the Bee from Day 1!
I’ll speak from my own experience since I just got married and haven’t yet posted recaps or photos. First, I went off on my honeymoon for a week right after the wedding. We came back and got asked to go to Vegas to see some family that was out there on vacation. We went and came back. Now, two weeks have passed since the wedding. It’s been another two weeks I’d say since our wedding. So I’m going on 5 weeks since the wedding. I’m on summer vacation, but I’ve been moving in, settling in, buying and decorating our home, cleaning out his stuff (I moved into Mr. Lace’s house), etc. We just got a website with our pro pics on there, but they are just proofs and not ready for posting. So… I’m trying to settle in and make Mr. Lace’s home feel like my home too. In addition to that, I’ve been working on the name change stuff, getting Mr. Lace’s insurance transferred over to mine, writing thank you cards…
I can’t speak for everyone, but it seems like there’s a lot to do post wedding! Or, they could just be forgetful! 🙂
Hope that helps!
Post # 8
I think for some they don’t end up posting photos because they aren’t thrilled with them in the end. Also, they keep saying they can’t wait to post photos, then they realize that if they post all those photos they lose a bit of their anonymity, so that makes them change their mind. Just my thinking anyway!
Post # 9
@zeynokiz: That doesn’t sound right at ALL. No way should it take a year to get those photos back to you in digital form. 3 months should be the *absolute* max!
Post # 10
@Halloween: Thanks for starting this thread! I posted a bunch of my photos in different threads already and still waiting to get around to doing a full photo recap; and I was wondering “What if people are getting sick of these; does anyone really care about pics of my day?” This post makes me feel so much better that there are Bees who actively look forward to these!
However ever since I posted the pics showing our faces; I no longer feel comfortable posting on some personal threads like Intimacy, which I kind of miss. Maybe this is what’s holding some people back.
Post # 11
I needed to put a disclaimer that anyone that was married within a month, heck even two months of this post is exempt (for now). LOL!!! But your first post-Wedding thread better have pictures! I’m totally kidding!!!
I think I got spoiled by a bride here who put some of her pro and non-pro wedding photo’s up just a few days after her wedding.
Meliss and MissASB I’ve seen your pictures and I love them!!! Keep ’em coming and thanks!
Post # 12
@Halloween: Haha! Don’t they know we’re impatient for all the beautiful details?!
Hopefully I get a few decent ones and I promise to post them! I think it’s nice to see everything come together.
Post # 13
Its privacy for me- I just dont want my stuff out there. I remember being so excited when I got my pics- I may have posted that I got them too, but I didnt feel the need to put them out there. When bees post that they have their pics, Im excited for them- but understand if they dont want to share. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE looking at everyones pics though!
Post # 14
Camrie you hit it on the nose! Seeing it all come together and sharing in the happiness of the Big Day with fellow Bee’s here. Congrats to you and I can’t wait for your wedding!!!
Thank you also Arancia, Andrea and Lace for your input. The privacy/post-Wedding “real life” thing is completely understandable but if you ever feel the need to put pictures up and you think it’s way too late…I’m just sayin’.