(Closed) active to active

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We were going to be, but circumstances changed. We were both applying for AF commissions but due to recruiter errors (and lies) our applications were royally screwed. Due to my husband’s age he had to apply to another branch and chose Navy- I didn’t want to be a Naval Officer (I get sea sick pretty easy) so I went back to school for another degree. I could have joined another branch, but our chances of getting stationed near each other were slim to none. With my new degree, I’d make less in the military as an officer even with all the perks so it worked out for the best.

  We know several mil to mil couples in the Navy and i’m always a little jealous. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Fiance and I both met while we were on active duty, both Army, and it was definitely hard.  After leaving the base we met at, I ended up in Georgia and he in Texas, Hawaii, and 1 year in Iraq.  I got out in 2009 after 10 years and work for DOD…Fiance got back from Iraq in December of 2009 and was able to get stationed in DC near me.  I deployed to Iraq in September 2010..9 months together before I deployed. ๐Ÿ™‚  It feels like we’re both still on active duty.  It’s definitely hard, but we both love the lifestyle and the opportunities.  We put in a lot of effort into making the relationship feel “easy.”

Post # 6
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I think enlisted is the way to go. There are so many perks, after you serve four year you can get a degree and go back as an officer if you want- and the degree is free. My  husband and I have 120k worth of college debt between the two of us. We both agree if we had our lives to do over we’d go enlisted or try to get an ROTC scholarship ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

@maureen9004: You don’t have to enlist to get a ROTC scholarship.  Actually it’s a different program if you get a degree while enlisted to get a commission.

OP: I know lots of dual military couples.  I always say the Navy has a better record than match.com for women.  Seems like every woman in the Navy eventually marries a shipmate!  I think dual military is actually the hardest kind of relationship to have, just because of the schedule juggling, having to deal with orders, and being on opposite deployment schedules.  It seems like dual-mil couples hardly see each other at all!  Has that been your experience?

Post # 8
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@MightySapphire: I’m aware. I meant enlist (attend college after and go OCS/OTS), work on a degree while enlisted to OCS/OTS using TA and the new GI Bill, or ROTC. When I was in undergrad I had my head too far up my butt to do any of the above ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

My fiance and I met while we were both on Active Duty in the Marines- it’s super hard because of the ridiculous rules and regulations that we had to abide by. We both got out last November, but now he’s trying to get back in. While I love the Marines, I just don’t think that I could handle us BOTH doing it again.

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