- 8 years ago
I got engaged in February, and within a month had spoken to two close friends about being co-maids of honor. My FH also has two best men. We debated adding thirds but both had college roommates we didn’t speak with as often and who live far away. We have both since reconnected with these people and found them wonderfully supportive and would like to ask them to be part of our special day. The problem is that I have gone ahead and started selecting Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses with my girls, etc. This girl lives really far away but knows I have asked others already. One of my current BMs is close with her and I was going ask for advice. I am going to try to visit to ask her in person but worried she will feel B-listed.
On top of this, my FH went ahead and asked his third – who, being a dude and who had already gotten involved in planning bachelor party, etc. was so cute and cried and said he was so honored and excited to be asked! Men are so much simpler! I just really don’t want to hurt my friend’s feelings and am kicking myself for my initial decision. I would really appreciate some help.