(Closed) Added stress..please help :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@blingbride623:  I would have a serious talk with your husband about how HE would feel with your sister and her kids in your apartment, I would say the only way to make this fair to all is to put a limit on how long your sister can move in for, and COMMIT to that, I would say 3 weeks would be fair, but after that, she should really find somewhere else to stay. Your husband didn’t sign up to live with you, your sister and her kids. I would say to keep your new marriage happy and fair, this is a situation where COMPROMISE should really be practiced!!

Post # 4
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the three of you need to sit down and put a timeline together of when it is expected for her to move out. This would release pressure between your Darling Husband and you and give you all something to move towards.

Post # 5
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6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think the bigger issue here is that you can’t agree with finances!  It’s the number one reason for divorce.  You really need to sit down and discuss that first and discuss how long your sister can stay second. 

Post # 6
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1527 posts
Bumble bee

@blingbride623:  I would make sure your sister knows that it is temporary and that she needs to work to find her own place to live again. Is there anywhere else she can go? Is she employed? Does she have plans for employment? Does she know what she wants to do? Have a time frame? 

It’s not necessarily healthy or unhealthy…it depends on how everyone is dealing with it. If everyone is on the same page, it could be healthy and beneficial to everyone. Your sister could help out in ways she can while she gets back on her feet. If you’re already having issues, it could exacerbate them, so you’re really going to have to be on the same page with your husband. Try counseling?

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