Post # 1
When I sent out my invitations, I had to make the tough decision to restrict “+1s” to people who are engaged or married. We came to this decision because we both have really big extended families, and we couldn’t accommodate all of our loved ones if we allowed all of our 20-something friends to bring dates. (We did, however, extend invitations to the significant others of our wedding party.)
Now that RSVPs are starting to come in, we’ve gotten a few unexpected no’s from people we thought would be coming (a lot of out of town guests + bad economy = fewer guests, it seems.) There are a handful of friends with longterm boyfriends/girlfriends who probably would appreciate being able to bring their SO. However, I feel a little weird saying “hey, so your boyfriend wasn’t welcome before, but now we have some extra space so you can go ahead and bring him.” Does anybody have suggestions about how I can do this without offending people?
Post # 3
I think it is just a matter of putting a more positive spin on the situation.
Phone up your invited friends and tell them you are excited to let them know that you will be able to accomodate their boyfriend(girlfriend) and that you are so happy for them that they will be able to come.
You could ask for their name and mailing address and send them an invitation or just ask your friend to RSVP on theri behalf.
Post # 4
I think I would just be excited that they could now come with me so I wouldn’t care that they weren’t previously invited. As long as you make it seem like you are excited for their significant others to come then I don’t think they will see anything wrong with it and will just be really happy 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with julies1949. Just make it into a positive situation. You can just let them know it was due to budget restrictions. I am sure they won’t mind.
Post # 6
I agree with the other 2 ladies, it’s not that you didnt originally didnt want them there, you just couldnt accommodate them. I would personally call them and invite their SOs and just be really excited about it. People understand and will just be excited that their SO can now come.
Since your invites and RSVP cards have already gone out, I would just an over the phone or email RSVP. No need to spend more money on postage and paper.