- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
We were prompt in sending our invites. Actually, we had sent them earlier than the norm due to our many out of town and out of country guests who would need to make arrangements and book flights and hotel rooms. We were expecting many declines but were hapilly surprised that almost everyone is on board!
The majority of these guests will of course bring their kids to our wedding and we are more than happy to have them there with us. We certainly don’t expect our out of the country guests to babysit their kids for 3-4 days!
However, for our local friends and family who only live 5 to 30 minutes away from the wedding location, we are expecting them to make arrangements for their kids. There is a reason why we did not add a “& family” and only adressed it to the couples. We also sent the invites early enough for everyone to book a babysitter.
Imagine my reaction when, just one week to our wedding date (next Saturday), I received a Facebook message from one of our guests mentioning “Mr. Yuki mentioned to my husband some of your out of town guests are bringing their kids” and “since there will be other kids ar the wedding” and “all of our friends are somehow out of town that weekend and we cannot babysit our daughter, is there any way we can bring her to your wedding?” Oh and let’s not forget the part where she asked “will there be activities for the kids to keep them busy?”
My first thought was “Are you kidding me?”. I explained the situation to Mr. Yuki then he said “Well, we can just tell the wedding location manager to add one kids’ meal. It’s not a big deal since it’s free for those under 6 years of age.”
Yes, the free meal is true but I could not shake the feeling this was not right and then mentioned to him how I would have to make the kid an escort card, call the chair cover people to add one more, contact the wedding location to add the extra chair and meal, print an extra menu (I am DIYing pretty much everything), etc. just for 1 extra person. However, what annoyed me even more was the fact they had several months to arrange for babysitting and she is just now mentioning how “coincidentally, all of our friends will be out of town that weekend.” Didn’t you make babysitting plans ahead? Why would the babysitter be out of town all of a suden?
There is still something that annoyed me even more, though, and that was the fact she asked “Will there be activities at your weddimg to keep the kids busy?” Yes there will be but why would you ask this when we have not invited your daughter, like you assume it’s alright to bring an extra guest just one week prior to our wedding? It sounds like they would not be able to watch their own daughter for 4 hours so it would be a good thing if we organized games for the kids.
After 5 minutes of discussing this, Mr. Yuki took the matters into his own hands and contacted the lady’s husband via email to explain we had already given our final numbers (truth-it’s only 1 week away!) and we unfortunately cannot accomodate their daughter. FYI, I am not close to these people; FH knows the guy through business related matters and they became friends in the past year and a half. I am just barely acquainted with him and his wife. They are nice people but I thought it was in poor taste to message me at 9:30 pm through facebook to ask me this question just 1 week to the wedding. Would have been nice if her husband called Mr. Yuki directly instead of having his wife message me.
I initially felt bad to reject them but after deliberation, I am glad we said “no”.
What do you think?