Post # 1
To make a long story short, I messed up. I decided to have only my four girlfriends from childhood as my bridesmaids and shouldve added in a 5th in but did not. I was going to have her do a reading, or be the “flower girl” but she doesnt like public speaking and the flower girl thing feels complicated (we are 30).
The bridesmaid dress we are using JUST became available again so she could order it and be a 5th and we can be uneven and have the Best man walk w/the two MOH’s.
our wedding is a month away from today..thoughts?? Woudl it be too last minute? or does it erally not matter and it is more about the day itself? I am at a loss to make this work. She is attending the Rehersal dinenr and will be getting ready with us in the morning as well.
Post # 2
I wouldn’t add her as an after thought. I’d be insulted.
Post # 3
Pebba1027: Have you asked her how she feels about the idea? She may very well have adjusted to the idea of being there and NOT having to buy the bridesmaids’ dress.
Post # 4
Pebba1027: I think it’s fine and she will probably be happy, but if she doesn’t want to do it, don’t be offended. I don’t think it would offend her to ask last minute, it wouldn’t offend me.
Post # 5
I literally asked a girl to be a bridesmaid the day before my wedding. We talked about it — I didn’t want her to feel like she was added last minute (Because she wasn’t. We were friends from long distance, she was my husband’s best friend’s wife and I had met her for the first time and we hit it off) and she was okay with it. Talk to her, see how she feels.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t ask her. I think it makes it seem like an after-thought.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2015 - Versailles Banquets (Northwest Suburbs of Chicago)
Pebba1027: I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man months after all the other girls were asked and after the dress was already picked out. I talked to my FH about it and he said I am already going to the wedding and that he doesn’t see it as a big deal. I had always planned on asking her to be in mine regardless of if she asked me to be in hers. I said I would love too and never regreted it. I had a great time and we now have some great pics together and can’t wait to get more at my wedding this October.
Post # 8
When my best friend was getting married, one of her bridesmaids had to ditch last minute for family reasons. litterally as I was getting ready to attend the wedding she called me and asked if I could do her a “huge” favor- luckily I wore the same size (I live about 12 hours away and wasn’t sure I could even go to her wedding until about a week before)
I was very happy to be able to help her and to be standing up there with her even though I had not expected it.
In a funny twist, I’m getting married in almost a week. My FH and I decided on one Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man but he decided to add a friend yesterday, so the first person I thought to ask of course was my best friend Who had asked me last minute. My bridesmaids won’t match exactly, but I kind of like that
(I’m sure OP already had this figured out, just wanted to add perspective for others looking for threads like this)