Post # 1
Hey! I hope that ya’ll might be able to help me figure out what to do regarding my bridesmaids. I have been engaged for almost a year now, and the wedding isn’t until May 2009. One of my bridesmaids recently had to drop out due to personal and financial concerns (which I totally understand). However, now I’m down to 4 bridesmaids and my Fiance has 7 groomsmen. While I don’t mind having an uneven number, I am a little wary about the disparity in number. I’ve thought about asking another friend to be in the wedding, but I can’t figure out if this would make her feel like the "second string" bridesmaid.
She’s friends with my other bridesmaids as well, so she’ll definitely know that they were asked almost a year ago. What should I do?
Post # 3
I think you should get her a nice card or something and make it seem like you are trying to make the numbers look more even so you would love for her to be in your wedding. I had a smiliar situation where in February (I am getting married this Saturday) I my Maid/Matron of Honor back out so I need to fill both positions so when we sent out our STD’s I wrote my friend a nice card that asked her to be in my wedding she knew she was not originally picked but she was still thrilled and has been great! I then asked my new Maid/Matron of Honor to be my Maid/Matron of Honor by getting a football for our favorite team and I wrote her a card that said
Peyton Manning has Marvin Harrison and Reggie Wayne I have had Jane Doe and Jan Doe but, I want you to be the receiver the takes it to the endzone will you be my Maid/Matron of Honor..
If you do it in a cute way she will be excited!! Good luck!
Post # 4
As long as you would be asking her because you genuinely want her in your wedding alongside your other bridesmaids, I say keep it simple and just ask her. You’ve had a long engagement and things change, including friendships which can grow deeper and more significant with time. To be asked now simply means that you recognize her as a friend close enough to be included among your nearest and dearest ladies and in no way reflects upon her as being less of a friend. I am sure she will be thrilled!
Post # 5
Maybe you could make a card for her with a "I saved the best for last" theme, emphasizing how important she is to you.