Post # 1
My moh is a friend I’ve known for a few years and lives in the same town as me. My step-sister (bridesmaid) I’ve known since we were 8 years old but lives in my home state. I orginally asked my moh because I needed someone to support me here and I knew it would be an extreme hardship for my step-sister to help. I orginally thought to have two, but thought it would be too difficult so I decided on one. She is a good friend of mine, but I just feel like I would like my sister to be a moh too. I am not trying to choose between the two, but would it be tacky to ask my sister to be the other moh? Do you think it is too late? My wedding is in november and I asked my girls last year. I just do not want either girl to feel like they were less important to me. I think I just screwed up when chosing and should of thought out the two moh thing better.
Background: I have not asked nor demanded any of my bridal party to help with a single task. Anything they have helped with was voluntary. I’ve enjoyed taking care of all wedding related issues, so this is really just for sentimental reasons.
Post # 3
If you were considering asking a friend to hop on the Maid/Matron of Honor wagon late in the game I’d think that you might offend your original Maid/Matron of Honor. But since it’s your sister I think if she’s a great friend she’ll be open to it if you have a conversation with her before you ask your sister.
If it were me, I’d first let her know how helpful she’s been and that she’s doing an amazing job and that I couldn’t ask for more. Then I’d ease into telling her that while everythings been great, that I can’t help but keep thinking that I really really want to also have my sister as maid of honor too. Then I’d ask if she minded. Big hugs when she says “No! Of course not!”
Post # 4
@rvrtplus2: I don’t know much about the timing, but I do not that it’s not out of the ordinary to have two. I am currently Maid/Matron of Honor 1 of 2. My best friend asked me and another friend to do the honors because she couldn’t decide. But she was honest with us about it, and it’s worked out well. I am here in state with her, while the other is out of state. (It has also lessened the amount of money and planning that we have because it’s shared!) As long as you are honest, and explain your reasoning, I can’t imagine that a close friend would be angered at you wanting to include your step-sister!
Post # 5
Thank you for the suggestions! I think I will talk with her and see how she feels. She has been emotional with some personal issues right now, so I am not sure if she will be receptive to change. She has gone through a lot already (divorce, and now custody battle). This is one reason why I think having my sister as the other Maid/Matron of Honor could help ease some stress.